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I would like to gently ask the blunt questions;
Firstly, what does MIL's Kidney Specialist recommend about dialysis? IF recommended, for what aim?
For comfort care measures? Or attempt to lengthen life?
I realise thereare many people that value taking all medical measures to prolong a life. There are others that value nature's way. Your families values will shape how you feel.
I would ask, despite not speaking, can your MIL communicate what she wants?
Does she understand about her condition? If so, does she want *invasive treatments*?
While I have not had dialysis treatment, I've met many people that have. They report it is not painful but is tedious. They can feel cool/cold & tired afterwards - but I'm sure that varies. They can show some confusion (due to build up of toxins) on non-dialysys days in end stage. This can sometimes cause distress to relatives.
For younger people on a donor list, dialysis can be a holding pattern until a more hopeful future life.
For me, at advanced age, I value quality of life over invasive treatments.
So sorry she and you are going thru this.
I don't love life so much that I'd opt for that, myself.
If you're waiting for a transplant, that's one thing. If you are simply choosing to treat kidney failure as part of aging--well, that's your choice.
This is definitely one time you need to opinions of the drs and listen to them.
It doesn't appear to be painful, at least. My MIL's kidneys are shutting down and she has not complained of pain of any kind.
Thank all of you for your replies and compassion.
It is much appreciated and helpful.
Bless each of you in your journey. Grace! Grace! Grace!
whew.
Lainey
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