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The peppermint is more for daytime and the orange for night but he suggested to replace the anxiety meds with this GABA replacement instead. It’s a fairly new product and when it’s under the tongue it goes straight into your system. I find it helpful.
You can order on Amazon or any health food store. It works for me :)
There are some very nice facilities out there. Start visiting a few, run the numbers and see if you can make it work for your mom.
Take care.
Meditation works well. Give yourself times-out even if it is just 5 to 15 mins throughout the day. Go for walks. I agree that it sounds like you need a break. I believe nature is a great way to regenerate ourselves.
I am sorry that your mom is doing this stuff to you. It sucks!!
Hugs!!!
However, it sounds like you Need (not want, need) time away. Preferable in Nature. By the ocean, or the mountains. At least 3 days and night minimum Preferably 7 days to 2 weeks. Its a job you are doing. (put your heart to the side for a moment) All workers get minimum 2 weeks vacation a year. And have some scented epsom salt baths, and someone to give you regular therapeutic massages. My Grandmother told me "massage is not a luxury, its a necessity"
Take good care of yourself. Nothing lasts forever
I am sorry you are so full of anxiety. I know how that feels. As for medications, I would talk to your doctor about the side effects and get some real help with this decision. Perhaps they would not be for you. Maybe you need some time off. I do take= them and am caring for my husband, which is very stressful, However, I was not given them for that stress. I do not think they would help you. I am not your doctor and he/she would be your first step. My best to you.
It’s either take meds or have a life that is not worth living. Getting up every morning, every day, feeling like you’re enveloped in pain and darkness is not a life people want to live.
Just as you can’t will diabetes or infection away, you can’t will away depression, anxiety, or pain.
I am so glad you had a positive life and were able to without brain altering drugs. Please realize not everyone is as fortunate as you. I have a major depressive disorder and an anxiety disorder. Medication, countless hospitalizations, life long psycho therapy have kept me alive and functioning to this day. You were obviously were prescribed medications You did not need. I had over 88 shock treatments which got me back to work. I had a long career as a marketing rep for AT&T. Thankfully the company understood mental illness.
Asfor others who feel the need for RX for anxiety, hopefully they have a good doctor to guide them!
I'm terribly sorry to hear about the stress that you are under. It is very hard to be the primary caregiver. I too wanted to soldier on and keep helping but it did take a toll. I was in denial and in my case the anger and resentment affected my judgement for my own health and my father's
My dad passed four years ago and I'm still suffering from high blood pressure. I do think if possible, it is best to consider making alternate arrangements for your mom. Give yourself a respite. These feelings and health symptoms are warning signs. Some medications will help but in the end, I do think its better to make other plans and walk away from being the primary caregiver if it has reached this point.
Thinking of you.
Hang in there. It gets better :)
If anyone is “sucking the life out of you”, you need to get away. Just because a parent gave birth to us, that does not mean that we owe our life to him or her. Parents chose to give birth. Not so with grown children.
I was in a similar extreme caregiving situation with my feisty mother back in 2012-2013 AND UNEMPLOYED AT AGE 56. THANK GOD I had some family to help my Mom into assisted living so I could get myself professionally diagnosed for my anxiety, see my doctor for my situation and get Trazadone meds to relax me, allowing me to seek new work.
MENTAL HEALTH MEDS ARE NOT ”PILLS”. It is as legit a medication as insulin, blood pressure meds, or antibiotics.
Every med has a possibility of effects. It is BS that the medical community doesn’t know how meds will affect people.
Take care of yourself.
Hugs
All medications have side effects which destroy our health...some more slowly than others
When you are ready, check out ashwaghanda powder & Moringa powder...These are very rich in nutrition, build ongoing strength & steadiness of the nerves & blood. And have no side effects. And many side benefits.
Keep smiling, the river of life is constantly moving, and we with it
I still don't know what to do. In my heart and soul all I can do is my best. Can't let manipulation defeat you. I know you're trying, try approaching a time out for you. It doesn't last long but you get to breath. Hey mom, I'm kinda wrapped up in things, can I get back to you?
You did not state your mother's entire health conditions. If your explained anxiety continues to worsen, obtain professional help so you can better cope with your mother's situation in order to reduce your stress. Once the professional diagnoses your anxiety, ask your doctor for what type of anxiety meds may work best for you.