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same here.
Don't get me wrong, I adore my daughter, I want her to be happy and live her life.
I was full time caregiver for my Mom, my Mom is now in a NH, and it's still hard.
I will never do that to my child.
When the time comes that I can't live alone, I want to go to a NH, not put my burden on my child.
I love her too much for that.
thank you for your support....
my mom has been upset with me lately, she said to me today, she doesn't believe the things i say. i am never in her corner, i always take other peoples side and i don't even know them. she can't believe i can be that way and how she can't believe she raised me to be like this. she said others have said i am strong and she is agrees. she said i will be fine..
i sad mom i don't like to see you upset and she says she is like that all the time.
i asked her to talk to a therapist, she doesn't want to pay someone to tell her how bad her life has been. she won't take any other anxiety meds except zantax, which doesn't seem like it is enough.
i have such a hard time moving on after she does this to me...she has me crying and upset. i started seeing a therapist and she said a phone call 2 times a week is fine.
i can't believe i am mean like my mom says. i work in health care and feel like i am caring. my mom has no friends she goes out with and she is 62 years old. i always upset her, i am so lost how to help her....
she says i upset her...i think of her 24/7 and just don't know what to do for her...
she lives in the past and talks about how hard her life has been..
i have to live in the present!
help!
At first things were great. She was in early stages of her illness. She played well with my girls, who were 2 and 6 at the time. But now, she is demanding. She fights with my older daughter, now 9. She is always demeaning her, telling her how fat she is (though she's not at all), telling her she eats too much, or picking "fights" with her. One time she even slapped my daughter. The little one, who she loves to death and claims as her own, can do no wrong... which is also a slap in the face to my older daughter.
Since she's been here, she has been in the hospital three times with heart problems. She would have died if she'd been alone.
Anyway, my point is to think very hard about the impact on your family. We cannot take trips out of town. We've not been on vacation in over 3 years. If I leave the house to go shopping alone (just to get some ME time), she gets mad because she says I've "abandoned" her.
I know there has to be some good retirement centers that you can check out. She will be with people her own age that she can do things with. And you... you and your family will continue to have YOUR life.
My parents have been married for 70 years. I dread the day when one of them goes and other goes right away. But in this interim time, there is so much to do. My sister and her husband help me when they can, but I am on disability. But they fill in in a pinch,
It is very difficult, no matter who careful and how gentle you are.
I've read about people who are in counseling and taking antidepressants just to put up with this stuff. Assisted Living is the way to go. Save yourself and your family!!
Get her in a senior complex or apartment where there would be other people she could talk to and get involved with.
My thoughts, you are NOT a bad daughter, you probably are saving your daughter mother relationship by not moving her in.