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I guess you (and me!) need to find some healthier foods on hand for all that eating!
I gained 30 pounds during the 7 years of trying to help my parents, not because I was eating more, but because I was too tired to exercise, before that I was a gym rat. And then getting a serious health issue due to stress thrown into the mix didn't help. That zapped all my energy.
My primary doctor has been after me for a couple of years to lose a few pounds but she doesn't understand that at my age, now in my 70's, it ain't coming off real quick. Doing lunges in front of the TV isn't on the top of my list. I'd probably fall over, anyway :P
So I am trying to cut back on carbs [bread and pasta both of which I enjoy].
Funny thing I actually had it a bit more under control while I was a caregiver. It (weight) has gotten a bit out of hand because I can get out more, I am invited to dinner more, lunch more and since I had been cut off I go. So the weight comes on.
I have to get serious! And I will say it here so I can't back down.
I want to loose 40 pounds.
Loosing 20 pounds would make me happy.
Loosing 30 pounds would make my doctor happy (no ecstatic)
40 pounds would give me a Fudge Factor (and I love Fudge!)
So y'all are my witness
I will keep you posted.
Mort 1221 and freqflyer if you would like to join me we can lose together.
Any one else want to join in?....
I feed my husband and mom. I barely nibble. I can’t even stand to smell food most days, let alone eat.
I finally got ahold of it when I decided to fill up on low cal foods. I would eat baby carrots, pickled beets, salads and anything else was just a taste here and there. I shrank my stomach and stopped feeling hungry and the weight came off easily
I recently looked in the mirror and said, "ENOUGH!" While loosing some of this weight is definitely on my list, my focus right now is self care. That means feeding my body healthier foods, getting more rest, asking for help, saying no, and drawing some boundaries with people who just "don't get it."
Good luck to you my friend. Take care of yourself.
And of course the alcohol does not help to cope.. I’ve since put an end to that & only drink socially.
It's another reason why it's so unfair for the caregiver, particularly those who have sibs who get away with doing no caregiving and continue to lead their carefree lives.
Serotonin improves mood. I instinctively reached for a food with tryptophan that converts to serotonin. In my case, it was natural peanut butter. But the calories added up!
Eating healthy whole grains, fruits and vegetables, dairy from grass fed cows, nuts, seeds, and yes, organic beans and peanut butter has helped me lose weight. I have to count calories and use a food scale. And I still have my 20 grams of dark chocolate (stevia sweetened) and 100 grams of red wine each day!
Good luck..I'll be waiting to see the tips. Although I know what my issue is, I love yummy food. They don't call it comfort food for no reason.
although at my age, that “change of life” weight gain is contributing as well!
Do yourself a favor and get some bloodwork done. Make sure your cholesterol and triglycerides are ok, and if needed, your doc can steer you in the right direction. For me, I am now doing “my version” of the Mediterranean diet, to cut my ‘bad cholesterol’.... I’m not considered overweight, and my BMI is fine, but you never know what’s going on inside. Olive oil and salads are my new best friend😜
I would come home after caring for mom and be so stressed I would grab the peanut butter jar and a block of cheese-that would be dinner!
I first invested in the color coded containers to help me see realistic portion sizes and the got a pack of sectioned meal containers. Both from Amazon if you want them (I'm not associated with them). I will pick a day and cook 4-6 meals ahead of time, mark with a Sharpie on the lid whats in it (usually 1 protein, 1 carb, 2 veg) and then store them in the fridge. When I'm stressed and hungry all I have to do is pull one out, heat, check off how many units I have and eat. Several people (mom included) says it sounds to complicated but once I got in the swing of things it is so much easier than shopping without guidelines and then wasting a lot of food. I have kept a journal/diary/datebook for several years so it is habit for me to record my units in there.
What does an average days worth of food look like? I'm 72 and started out at 213 so I'm in the 1,800-2,099 calorie range. Which means I can have for the day (total) 3 fruits, 4 carbs, 5 proteins (which can be meat or yogurt or tempeh),5 veg, and assorted fats that I won't bore you with. All together it is a lot of food and I always end up at night with some left over. Don't save that for the next day! It's a brand new start each day.
So after 19 days (so far) I've lost 11 lbs. and I feel much better about my eating. It's a bit of a challenge to get the system organized but once it is it runs fairly smoothly. I love it and it is something I hope to continue for the rest of my life.
One more thing that has helped is taking Webutrin. The weight falls off and it helps with the confusion and depression that goes with caregiving. Ask your MD or see a Psychiatrist.
We try to take care of ourselves, but it is not 100% while our elder's needs seem more than ours. I did a lot of prioritizing.....what do I need to do now to keep us alive? How about you?
The brain is a complex organ. I ate to keep my sanity and would gladly do it all over again as I brought peace of mind to my DH while I was gaining weight.
Just FYI, he was 96 to my 66 and the weight reassured him I was not looking for another hubby.
For me, if it didn't come in a bucket, I wasn't eating it. It started when he would ask for things and then not eat them. I couldn't afford to throw away food so I ate what he wanted but was unable to eat. The ice cream called to me and according to what I've read, it was from the stress I was under.
I would do it all again to still have him here with me.
I find myself eating and sitting around too much . It's all country around here with dirt roads. I feel.like I've gained 20 lbs ,ok maybe 10.
I've walked the dirt road, didn't work much, I'll occasionally walk the property (11 acres), I even brought up moms old exercise bike from the basement, messed up my knee a bit, she was shorter than me. I do enjoy a glass of wine at night too.
This is not what I'm used to😕.
So now after being here for the last 4 months, I'm trying to get a hold of this. It's hard, I dont want to be to far away from dad as hes already had a TIA attack. So I stay close by and do arts/crafts, and on a good day I'll walk the property with my dog. It's not much, won't get the heart pumping but at least it's something. Oh and I'm cooking what i like, more fish and chicken and vegetables. Dad eats it but I know he would prefer the potatoes/gravy.
It's just something we have to work at daily. We have to take care of US and THEM because know one else will.
hopefully, dad will be able to go to Florida and I can get back to some of my activities, hopefully.
Weight Watchers was very helpful to me when I was working. If you can't get out to a meeting, they have an on-line program. Meanwhile stop leaving snack food, soft drinks and most desserts in the house!
All the travel, constant stress due to worry, and a sister who does the bare minimum even though she is 45 minutes away from our folks, have led me to weight gain. I am angry at myself and honestly I don't know if I can begin again.
I wish I had words of wisdom to share, but please know you're not alone.
Which brings me to a question. Does anybody have a recommendation for an app or website where you can log in your food and it will calculate the calories for you. I'd be happy not to have to look up every single item. Thanks in advance for any advice! And good luck to all you hopeful losers (of weight, that is)!
Now you may be able to scan the bar code on a package for its nutritional information, at least if the app likes your camera. But like everything worthwhile, there is a learning curve, and you need to invest some time into working with it.
My first day using the SP app, I went through my pantry and fridge and input into my database all the non-junk food that I normally ate, specifying how many servings were in a box/bag/packet. I found that very useful, and a little horrifying in some cases. But you can use the app’s food database for a ballpark figure.
That being said, I lost 65 pounds in about 9 months using the SP app. In retrospect, that may have been “too fast to last.” The community is amazingly supportive there and the full desktop has tons of helpful articles and resources..