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A lot of research has gone into this and is proving that oils like canola are bad and the very best oil for brain health is coconut oil, but the drug companies can't patent it, so they won't accept it. My husband's cognitive skills had gone down to 11 out of 30 and the doctor said I should put him in a nursing home but I found out about coconut oil and started giving it to him and within three hours he was talking in intelligible sentences. Within 2 weeks the doctor saw him and was amazed. He ordered a new test and he was 24 out of 30. Now he is perfectly normal again. If you are interested in his story go to YouTube and check GrandmaCarolFlett or search coconut oil and dementia.
mental stimulation, or social activity. My mother has been declining for 5 years, since age 80, and she ate an incredibly healthy diet, exercised regularly, including yoga, weight training and aerobics, is a college graduate who read avidly( serious fiction and non-fiction, not romance novels and People magazine), and was socially active and involved in community activities. She was adventuresome in every way, traveling and expanding her horizons. My grandmother also had Alz.
and she was college educated, active, lively and social. This disease strikes people of all backgrounds, personality and intellect regardless of their diet and exercise regimen. My mother was the least likely candidate for this disease except that her mother also had it, and probably her grandfather as well. It's much more likely to be related to genetics than anything else. There are a lot of people out there who just believe nonsense!
I come here because I can relate to all of you. I'm a caregiver. I cared for my dad for 5 years in my home until I. Couldn't. Do. It. Anymore. It was either him or me and I chose me and here's the secret no one tells us: When you put your loved one in a nursing home the caregiving doesn't stop. It's different but it's not over, not by a long shot.
My dad is dying a little bit everyday. His mind is almost gone. Because of his liver failure he's full of toxic, noxious fluid. We've hired hospice to supplement the care my brother and I give him. The care I still provide him. It takes 3 people and a staff full of nurses and techs to care for my dad now. I told my daughter that I would never put her through this, just like my mom and and told me but I promise her I will never, ever put her through this. I promised her and I promised myself. Eventually, someday, the time will come and I'll know it's the right time and I will save my daughter years of grief, sadness, resentment, heartbreak, financial strife and everything else I've been through and everything else I've read about all of you going through. My daughter will never need a website like this.
Dementia is more common now in part because more people are living to an age where they are suseptible. And it is not a hush-hush topic. My grandmother was pretty sharp into her nineties, but she spent her final years bedridden in a nursing home, not always recognizing her visitors and often off in some world not shared by them. No one ever suggested she had dementia, and she was not counted among dementia statistics at that time. But she no doubt would be now.
I think we cannot minimize the importance of more people of dementia age and better record keeping about health matters. In 1900, about 4% of the population was over 65. In 2000, about 12% of the population was over 65. And the population is much bigger. I don't know if anyone kept track of how many people were "senile" in 1900; lots of agencies track how many are being treated or cared for with dementia in 2000.
I'll bet this isn't the only answer, but I think it is an important one.
Just a couple of words about myself. I live with, and take full time unassisted care of my 105 yo grandmother. Unfortunately for me, she is an absolutely horrible person. Mean spirited, a liar, swindler, etc. When my mother passed away 7 years ago, somehow in the shock and confusion of that, I promised to take care of my GM "to the end". Huge life-wrecking mistake. I would guess that 98% of the people here could not even conceive that a person of that age could be evil. But there she is every morning - just waiting to boss me around yet another day.
My sister - who fits the selfish sib pattern perfectly - dropped us hot potato-style over 3 years ago. However, in the one email that I received from her since then, she stated "I imagine nothing has changed, she's still an evil liar who treats you like s---." Well, yeah. In fact just yesterday my GM said to me, "I'm gonna buy a gun, and then when you don't do what I tell you, I'll just shoot you." Now obviously that was meant as some kind of "joke", but it is truly representative of the way she thinks.
Anyway, my life with granny has been insanely depressing, and I would never do it again. However, the one and only good aspect of my situation is that I have plenty of time to THINK.
I am a former chess master - top 10 in my home stae - and also a self-taught computer programmer. I love attacking complex logical puzzles. One of my life-long chess friends made enough money to retire in his early forties in order to pursue chess full time. But guess what - he got so interested in alternative health that he basically dropped chess and writes / researches "alternative" health matters instead. (He has been a raw foodist for about 20 years.) We are both extremely skeptical of the conventional doctorin' approach to health.
Now, sorry if that is TMI, but I wanted to explain my perspective before making any other statements.
First, despite my GM being so horrible, both my mother (RIP) and I are just the opposite. Therefore my grandmother gets absolutely great care from me. Meaning, for example, Essential Fatty Acids!
That is the first tie-in to this topic. For 20 years I have owned a copy of Udo Erasmus' book "Fats That Heal, Fats That Kill". You can read some very interesting "user reviews" of it on Amazon, and you'll also see about 80 reviews for "The Coconut Oil Miracle", which is regarded as the better book of the two. Think I'll order that one, pronto.
One thing I can tell you from the Udo Erasmus book is that he points out that with our domesticated meat sources, their fat profiles are radically different from that of their wild counterparts. Kind of like the "free range" idea, but pig vs wild boar, sheep vs antelope (or whatever) etc. Basically too much fat, the wrong kind of fat, and an absence of the right kind of fat.
Anyhow, I agree with jeannegibbs that we shouldn't expect a magic bullet from any one substance, and that 99.9% of our ancestors did not have access to coconut oil. But the fact remains that 99.9% of our ancestors were not eating all of our bad fats either. Plus, they got EFA's from whole foods, seeds, insect contaminants, and so on. So IMO this fat issue is of paramount importance in health / disease research.
Well, it's after 2, got to get ready for another groundhog day.
One last thing.
I was thinking last week that it would be great to have an ongoing topic like "Caregiver's Quest for Super Health", but figured that there might only be 1 or 2 people interested, if that. But seeing the response on this topic, I wonder. Lots to discuss, guaranteed.
But the change occurred right after the first dose of coconut oil so in his case I believe that made the biggest difference.
I will try to start that new thread.
The other thing is that we did not keep track as well of the numbers of people who had dementia. My dear grandmother was pretty sharp into her nineties and then declined significantly. Her family and her nursing home considered her senile. She never made it into the dementia statistics, but today she certainly would.
We have both more people who live long enough for dementia to develop and much better ways of tracking the number of dementia cases. Of course we are going to hear more about it!
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