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I do agree about backing off a little in your visits if she’s stable, as a test to see how both you and she fare. Is she cognizant enough to understand you getting a job and your visiting hours might change? Is it something you could talk to her about? Would she be happy for you or mad?
I agree that at age 46, you need to be gainfully employed. You have 20 years to contribute to a retirement fund. If you have the education and qualifications necessary for this job, go for it!
The only caveat is if you are responsible for Mom’s care. You dont say where she is living, but if she is in a facility, you are not responsible for her care. You keep tabs on her, but you don’t “take care” of her. You check in with the staff to make sure she is alright, visit when it’s convenient, but you don’t stress yourself out supervising her care.
Good luck. Come back and let us know how you are.
I would like to add that R.Smith would be so much better off working to preserve sanity. Seeing a doctor for a check-up, and going to a support group.
Hiring a caregiver part time, or even on-call might alleviate some worry ?
I get a very small income from the last job since I was let go with medical, not the amount needed to pay my bills by no means, so a job would make a huge difference there.
Yes, my sanity feels like it’s gone to the dogs a good while back. I feel very much out of the loop with the rest of the world.
Of course, the guilt of not being available at any given possible emergency will likely always be there, but I’m wondering if I have hit that pony that I need to pick up my pieces now.
Is your small income received for a medical issue stopping you? I recommend bravely plowing ahead with all your might. My dH is just about to work his way off of disability, (requires job coaching). It is scary to work so hard then lose 1/2 your income when "they say" you are no longer disabled. Do it anyway.
You are just maybe stuck, so get up out of bed and buy an outfit for the interview.
Next day, get your hair done early, by appointment, about the time you would be working.
Then, go out for coffee every morning at the times you want to be working.
Practice smiling all during the above exercises.
Take your computer with you.
Check back in after you have done them.
1) Can we really now "reply" to ourselves?
2) This feature can be used to addendum a post after the "edit" feature has expired.
3) Amazing!
Where is your mom living? Does she have the financial means to hire help?