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And if she lasts longer than the 7 days, you/she will just have to pay out of pocket to continue staying there until she dies.
You're doing the very best you can and I know your momma knows that. She doesn't want you all stressed out over her care, so talk to the hospice nurse about having her transferred to their facility.
I know that all this is very hard on you. My husband was under hospice care for 22 months in our home, and it was like being on a rollercoaster.
Hang in there. There is light at the end of your tunnel, and believe it or not, when your momma finally does meet Jesus, you will wish for just one more day to care for her. It's kind of crazy how that works. God bless you my dear.
If it were me I would place Mom into a nursing facility. You made that promise to your her without having any idea what it entailed. It sounds like you have reached the breaking point. If you don't practice self care you might suffer serious consequences to you physical and mental health.
Your brothers have no say in what you need to do to care for yourself. Ignore any disapproval. The world is full of morally puffed up folks who delight in judging others. Tune all that out and focus on those who support you.
As for your Mom, you can still be there for her while she is in the facility. Find a place that allows regular visitation be it via Skype, window visits or in person. Mom will not be happy about going into a home, she will be angry, my Mom was, but in time you will realize her anger is not at you. She is sick and dying and that's cause enough for someone to be angry and sad and afraid.
No matter how much she lashes out keep telling her you love her. Tell her the things that you love about her. I had a difficult relationship with my Mom but I was still able to do those things. It helped.
Best to you in this difficult time.