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I am in an assisted living unit and my husband‘s in a separate room from me. That’s all they had currently now I am not really very happy and I want a dog. I think that would help my depression & other issues. You could have a therapy dog come and visit him and see if there’s any reaction to the dog perhaps that would calm him down.. maybe give it to her three tries, depending on what he does on each of them.
My husband is in a separate room from me. He has Parkinson’s not being around me as much has helped calm his anger..
Good luck with your ventures and I’ll pray for you .
Try your state rep. The facility is his home. There may be laws that protect him.
Ask the state rep if he can be evicted if he does not have any place to go.
This may buy you some time. Also follow through with the VA. If his medication is prescribed by his neurologist, you need to talk to the neurologist and ask his/her advice. Give examples of the angry behavior. Ask if the medication needs to be changed or tweaked. Also check to make sure he is taking his meds. If he has not seen a neurologist recently you may need to schedule an appointment. You may have a lot of advocacy work ahead but do not give up. I hope you have Medical POA.
The father may have exceeded the level of care an assisted living facility provides and may now need to be placed in memory care or a psychiatric facility.
Don't just count on the hospital staff knowing of suitable memory care or skilled nursing facilities. (in my case, they were no help)
But, this is where you can start to call and visit local care homes and be involved in the placement decision.
You cannot find placement that does not exist and the best thing to do is allow those who are dealing with dad to do as they must. The ALF may eventually need to transport him to Emergency services, there will be admission to a locked unit and assessment and medication. From there the social workers will have to work their magic. The thing to know is that there is little you should do or COULD do now. And certainly you cannot take him into your own care. That is definitely OUT. I am terribly sorry for this. My brother was diagnosed with Lewy's 5 years ago and hoped with all his heart he could die before this stage he saw coming. He got sepsis and did just that after one and one half years. I was very grateful to the fates for not allowing him to suffer this extreme indignity and loss. My heart so goes out to you as you stand helpless witness to this torment of one you love. Get hospice on board as soon as you are able.
If he’s not technically hospitalized, then the discharge planner at the hospital will contact family to come and get him. You need to be prepared for this call and be able to firmly and repeatedly say that neither you or anyone in the family can provide a safe and secure environment for him. The discharge planner will end up having to find a facility that will eventually take him.
the ER / ED dump happens all the time. That they appear to have had a TIA transient ischemic attack is often used as the reason to call EMS as it’s real subjective as to how it looks. You want to stay on good terms with the AL and have his bill paid as you want to be able to go,and get his things from his apt, etc.
fwiw my mom had Lewy Body Dementia. Her issues were more about hallucinations and visual distortion's that were 100% real for her. She had the Lewy shuffle for walking. She was by & large amiable even when she insisted folks were stealing from her and had meetings in her IL apt as it “had the good sunlight”. Once she moved into a SNF on a set medication management schedule, things got better, like did activities at her NH, was social. The dementias can all be different from 1 individual to another. Eventually your SD will find the right care environment and mix of medications and therapies to have things smooth out.
He likely needs memory care, as the anger and verbal abuse are likely made much worse by the lewey bodies.