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Did you and the aide discuss and develop a list of job requirements/obligations before she started getting paid?
Perhaps the aide needs more structure from you, or perhaps she finds it satisfying to sleep and watch TV and be paid $18/hour.
I think you should be able to do better, either by clarifying your expectations and assuming she may bail out on you and your mother, or by simply telling her that you’ve decided to “make some changes” in your mom’s care and letting her go.
”Moms laundry” certainly includes towels in my world, and cleaning up a messy bathroom, washing breakfast and lunch dishes isn’t hard labor.
It May be that as a “family friend” this person doesn’t totally realize that she is expected to do specific important tasks for the money she is paid.
See what happens if you decide to “tighten the reins”.
all of that comes with the job.
the aides were required to write into the log book everything they did...and anything that happened.
The day started with stripping the bed and towels and starting the first load of laundry. Keeping an eye on it to keep it moving along till the last load was out and folded. The. Remake the bed.
Make breakfast. Clean up the dishes. Make sure Mom takes the pills for after breakfast. All the while..moving the laundry along and making sure mom gets to the bathroom and is clean coming out. Mom liked to spend the morning in PJs and read the paper. So, no TV
make lunch. Clean up the dishes...and the kitchen.
Take mom for a walk if she it up to it. For my mom there were speech practice sheets to be done...assigned by the therapist.
make sure mom get to the bathroom and cleanup before returning,
be available to assist it taking her to to doctor appointments...this usually required the wheelchair, so 2 people just made more sense.
there were a host of memory games that were recommended by occupational therapy...so pick one or two to play in the afternoon. Usually mom would fall asleep by mid afternoon...so this was a good chance to get the beds made and the entry in the log book done.
The lunch menu was made by me and usually was chopped fresh fruit and one her favorite soups.
this was all very basic stuff.
If the aide aide doesn’t want to do her job...go find one that wants to earn that pay.
PS... both of the aides I had for Mom were close friends, and started as friends of the family. This in no way prevented me from setting out schedules and required work in enough detail that they knew what was required. NEVER had an issue with any of it. Both of these lady’s were great and I rewarded them well, beyond the basic pay.
You can tell the Aide that you need this Contract in case in the future your Mom needs to apply for Medicaid [which is different from Medicare]. That way when there is a look-back by Medicaid, they won't claim that the money given to the Aide was a gift.
On this Contract, you can list things you want the Aide to do. Sounds like the Aide is unsure about her duties and this will clarify.
I would contact an agency and get someone new right away.
This is just gut wrenching that she finds tv watching, sleeping and not doing her job an acceptable way to treat her friends, that is where the saying, "with friends like you, who needs enemies!" comes from.
Your mom deserves to be treated with more dignity than this person is showing her. Who is pig enough to not help a senior have a clean bathroom and self. Especially being paid really good money.
To do list or not, she has obviously told you she doesn't want to do certain things, then doesn't do them. What would she say if you told her on payday that you didn't want to pay her? Yeah, not likely. I would get her social security number and send her a 1099 at the end of the year. This will protect mom in the event she needs Medicaid.
I would remove all valuables, she obviously has an entitlement issue and she has already stolen time by not working when she is on duty, so no doubt she is likely to help make herself feel justified by accepting gifts for her self from your home.