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1. Before you leave get him involved in an activity or a meal. Once he is involved quietly get up and leave. Don't say anything to him, just go.
2. Try to keep the visits short and as difficult as it is don't cry or show that you are upset or sad. He may be picking up on your emotions.
3. Agitation is common with dementia so medications are commonly used. But I would think in 7 weeks they should have his medications "fine tuned" so that he should not be getting agitated. And if the medications are not "fine tuned" I would ask to talk to the doctor to determine what is going on.
(You do say in your profile ..and thank you for adding that information.. that your husband has Alzheimer's medicating for agitation should be straightforward, if he had Parkinson's and Lewy bodies that can be a little trickier to find a medication that will help with the agitation.,)
I am confused about your question...is the facility asking you to find another place for your husband?
I'm guessing that you didn't heed their advice and are now reaping the consequences huh?
So I guess now you can either not visit so often or make sure that you have your loved one involved in an activity before you sneak out, to keep his agitation down.
As for asking him to leave you will then need to find a new facility for him, it is just that simple.
Take a few days for yourself. He is safe and cared for. Keep your visits short and as suggested maybe right before dinner so he is distracted when u leave. Never say you are going home. My daughter always told my Mom she was going to work. The word home was never mentioned.
Prayers
When you do eventually do visit, try coordinating it with some event in the facility and leave his presence before the event ends, letting the staff know that you will be scooting out.
If he continues to ask you to get him out, tell him that his doctor is the one who decides that. Then change the topic or leave.
Other products may also relax him. Hemp based products like delta-8-thc are federally legal, and all states except Idaho allow them to be shipped from suppliers in other states. They’re often found in convenience stores.