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What you don't want to do is alienate and anger your father in the process of trying to help him. If he doesn't want your help, and you rhino in regardless, he's likely to get super irritated with you and then what? A nice calm discussion with the man is more in order, in my opinion. See what's driving him to think he owes this woman a quarter million dollars and all the rest of it. He may need a cognitive evaluation if he insists on such a thing!
Best of luck.
But, that's just how I roll with abusers.
Him owing her 250k...prove it. Produce invoices with clock in and clock out times. Original time sheets show Dads signature showing he OKd the hours. Originals can be tampered with and copies will not show it. Then, go back in his checkbook and write down every check he gave her. If he paid her under the table, oh well, she just frauded the IRS if she paid no taxes on it. If she can prove her time, he doesn't owe her. Without physical proof, she doesn't have a leg to stand on. Hope u took pictures of the house when u moved in.
With your Dads health a age I would get him a good physical. Strokes damage the brain. There could be Dementia setting in. A Neurologist would be a good person to take him to but let his PCP run some tests and labs first. If it found he has Dementia, then he is not competent to make decision. Someone needs to be POA if not already. If not, get it done now before a diagnosis. If Dad bulks, tell if no POA the State will take over if he ever needs help. Its a tool to protect him.
Then cut off her phone access to him: get him a new number, block her number. Tell him a fib as to why he needs a new number. Erase her contact completely and any history of their calls to each other.
Make sure none of her mail is going to his house.
Help your Dad secure all his sensitive info into a fireproof filing cabinet (and make sure you keep one of the keys). Change the locks to his doors and garage code.
Check if he has a social media presence (FB, etc). See what he's posting there if possible.
Consider consulting with an elder law attorney who is experienced with financial abuse. Learn what you need to do to gather evidence against this woman and her sons. You may never need to pull this trigger but if she knows you're thinking of pursuing and tracking her crimes, she may stop on her own.
If he doesn't have a PoA, and he doesn't have a diagnosis of cognitive impairment, then you don't have much power without his cooperation. He could still create one, since someone with mild cognitive issues is often still deemed to have capacity by attorneys (since they interview the elder privately when they come in for this type of appointment).
The other option is to download the PoA paperwork online from Legalzoom.com or RocketLawyer.com. This is easier and cheaper and if his affairs arent' too complicated, is better than nothing for his sake. Then he'd just need to get it finalized at a notary with 2 non-family witnesses. Make sure it is a durable PoA, rather than springing, if at all possible.
Going forward, the more that you and your sister can together discuss important things with your father, the better. You and your sister must be a united front for your father.
I so hope you have POAs in place. If not see if Dad will go with you before you get a diagnosis. Tell him if he doesn't assign you, the State will eventually be taking over his care and money. Once he is diagnosed as having a Dementia he can not assign u or sign contracts.