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Do you feel like he is safe at home? Are you concerned about being able to continue to care for him?
I understand that you miss the person that he once was. It’s very hard to see our spouses suffering. He may not want to be a burden on you, so therefore he won’t ask for help.
Do you have any outside help? Would he be more comfortable asking them for help? Do you think he may be approaching the point of needing to be placed in a facility? What health concerns does he have?
Wishing you peace as you continue on in your caregiving journey.
Has he had PT?
Is balance his issue, or weakness, or something other?
Is there a diagnosis of dementia or depression?
Eventually, for us all, it becomes companionship in the waiting room as we address current issues.
What are your issues, and your husband's?
You may just be undergoing the changes that come with aging, the process. I am 81, my partner is 83, and, as we continue to age, I know we often look at one another and wonder: Where is that vital woman laughing in pictures in Paris, cuddling dogs on the stone steps in Italy, weed whipping an acre in the country--WHERE DID SHE GO?
That vital man, sailing in races on the Bay, laughing with friends at dinners out, racing the dogs down the sands to the beach, raising his grandbabies up to the ceiling? Where did he go? Now it sometimes comes down to it's Tuesday and garbage-can night. Which of us has a back strong enough to do it, or is it a two person slog?
It can become tiring and too scary to remember the good times. But it's important to. And to remember there's something to be said for enjoying together a good documentary on Netflix, a sit down in the sun on the back deck by the apple tree.
Trust me that I feel you. I hope you will tell us more about what you're facing.