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Charleston is a bit safer with the Patriots point museum with an aircraft carrier, sub, and destroyer and the middleton plantation. The last time I took boys there it took four days for them to tour the sites. They liked the river and carriage rides through the cane. Watching out for the alligators was fun too. The hundley will probably take an afternoon. There are malls around with good restaurants and movie theaters - very near where I intend to book our hotel.
I have traveled the US extensively and these cities before with young people. I assume security is worse now but believe with some help from current residents I will be able to chose safe locations and transportation. Or should I strike Philly entirely?
The boys are all fairly responsible (for their ages) and accustomed to obeying the boy in charge. Auntie is an auntie and just flatly refuses to take boys who are not interested in sticking to my rules. I only have to take them home once for them to learn that rule.
I intend to head for Charleston during spring break and Philly during the "no practice" timeframe for football in late June. Fun local day trips for the younger boys though the summer; their schedule is easier. They want to go to the zoo and aquarium.
The ships (and their guns) are unique enough to be fun for the boys, even at 8.
My spinal stenosis isn't going to get better. I drag my foot after walking a distance and there's pain if I go too far but for any reasonable duration I can still handle stairs and uneven ground. I think I could handle the trip alone now, but I don't want to find out I am mistaken while on the trip, so the 18 yo is a security blanket. Also, this might be the last chance for a trip with him before his own commitments close the door.
Good luck!
Legally he is an adult and judging from what you have shared, will be a great help to you and a good guardian for all the boys.
I don't have a problem with youngsters helping the family, as long as it isn't a daily requirement that hijacks their lives. They need to learn that everyone in the home and family contributes, that's how life works, that's what makes a family work.
When you ask the 18 year old make it clear that no is okay and even if he feels obligated he is not.
Buying a scooter is a great idea. Get one that goes fast, I can't keep up without hustling when my friend uses hers. Like faster then speed walking.
You are an awesome mom and Auntie. They are ALL blessed to have you.
Have a great time!
For example, when coming back from the Ft Sumter tour with my niece I had the opportunity to teach about parking garages. Is the elevator bank safer than the open air stairs? Should you park your car near the elevators or stairs or out in the open? Do you use your cell phone or ear plugs when walking in and around a parking structure? Have you checked the back seat before getting in the car? Do you have your keys in your hand and are you prepared to plant them someone's face? Do you know where you will retreat if attacked? What you will use and where you will target if the attacker is larger or if there's more than one? Keep criminals away from you. If they grap your purse or a package and run then let them go. If they demand your wallet then pitch it away. If they come at you be prepared to resist; don't ever get into a car - fight it out here as loudly as you can (you have a better chance of help here) - don't let someone get you to a remote spot of their choosing!
Life is not about not taking risk. It's about knowing the risks and "stacking the deck" in your favor as much as possible. Fortunately both PA and SC are stand your ground, reciprocal permit states, which means if threaten I can legally respond with deadly force.
We won't be traveling in high crime areas after dark or even in broad daylight. We will be in some "tourist" areas where we need to be paying attention to our surroundings even in daylight hours. I am confident in my ability to keep my kids safe, and live with the consequences if I need to defend them.
What a great opportunity for teaching them to pull their heads out of their phones and be aware.
Like I said, they are blessed to have you. You keep on doing you and the world is a better place for it.
Living or should I say not living because of fear is a terrible way to have a life, non-life??
Of all that old stuff you have at your house, don’t you have a rocking chair? Just teasing. Just teasing.
Thank you for fleshing out the details more for us. Your enthusiasm for the trip is contagious. Life happens wherever we are and as much as I want it to be a perfect trip I will be happy when you are reporting on how successful it all was.
I swear you seem to be having the time of your life and wanting so much to provide that for others is inspiring. I’m glad the 18 yr old is onboard. Happy planning.
I think I would find it a bit worrisome to send him out at night in a car with so many in a strange city. Perhaps to a pool or restaurants in close proximity to the hotel? But then that might be close enough to walk. Without you they will look like a pack of boys. It is a lot of responsibility.
How about an interim day trip to test the waters? This could be a “rite of passage” as the boys mature.
I also think having to watch your little brother or grandma everyday of your life is quiet diff from getting to be “head boy” on a neat trip. It’s not that he should feel like he has to go. I would want him to want to go.
I see you as the stabilizing force but I don’t know the boys or how they currently interact. Is the 18 yr old a senior? Does he have a girlfriend? Are his break days the same as the younger boys?
He may have a hard time not being with his own age group on these important last days of high school.
There is a reason boys auto insurance is more expensive than girls until about the age of 25. There is more involved than physical stamina. I’m sure you know more about boys than I will ever know.
It is something to think about but I would also like to see you get a good physical and see if you can improve your health in the interim. You might also see if there are small tour groups the boys could be part of on the more strenuous portions of the trips.
I trust you TN to know the right thing. But remember you need to make it for the long haul. Don’t stress yourself out too much.
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