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Good luck in placing her.
But if you have the PoA documents and bank statements showing where the money was coming from/going to then take that to an attorney to clear it up.
I agree an attorney might be warranted, but having myself just come through a long dark period of solo caregiving without a day off since before COVID, please take my advice, sleep. And eat. And take a walk if you can, even to the street corner.
In my situation I didn’t (still don’t) always recognize the true nature of things or respond correctly because I’m just so dang tired. Even now as I regularly sleep, eat and practice “self care” 🤮 I’m still so tired I can’t function some days.
We bust our arses for the people we love to be accused by small-minded twits who didn’t help when we asked but who want to pick us to death now.
BUT having slept and eaten, I’m much more likely to recognize what I need to deal with and when I can ignore the pissants who just want to bite my ankles.
If you’ve honestly done your best as her power of attorney and you can document it, put the situation aside for the moment and rest. Then tomorrow collect your info, call your attorney, and if they don’t say not to, call the APS investigator and ask what’s going on and how you can help. Mind what you say because they do work with local law enforcement so anything you say may be some part of a case, but you may be surprised at how much they actually care.
Also the bank is vested in covering its corporate tushie so the account getting locked may have been an internal bank move, not APS, esp if you are a joint account holder, so you might want to ask about that as well.
I hope that you are able to resolve this matter quickly and find a place for your mom.
It’s very difficult to do the hands on care ourselves. I was the primary caregiver for my mom also. After awhile it takes a toll on us and we can no longer do it.
Choosing to be your mom’s advocate is very wise, then you can return to being your mom’s son and oversee her care that will be provided by a professional staff.