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Typically a bus or van will pick up participants in the morning, bring them to the program and they get a breakfast a lunch and a snack and do a variety or activities depending on the level of cognition. Some may go on an outing, some may do art projects, garden...
The participants are then taken back home.
When I had my Husband in the program he would get picked up by 9 am and was home by 4.
If there are no programs in your area you can ask if there are any other programs that you/he would qualify for. Some programs might provide a caregiver a few hours a week. That would give you a break.
If your husband is a Veteran you can contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission or your States Department of Veterans Affairs and they can help determine if your husband would qualify for any benefits through the VA. It might be a little or a LOT depending on where and when he served. (and if he is a Veteran the VA now will pay a spouse as a caregiver. With some of that you could hire a caregiver a few hours a week that would add to what the VA would provide (they would provide a caregiver a few hours a month, not a lot but it does help)
I knew a program for older men that was geared about bench top equipment. It folded with insurance issues when a guy lost a finger. Not a good place for socialising!
Also, kindly fill out your AgingCare profile as that will enable posters to better assist you.
Contact your local Senior Service Center and see if they have such a program or are aware of one.
Look for day-care centers.
If you do not know how to do this, ask a friend or neighbor to assist you.
Contact your City Hall, Senior Services Dept.
Call his MD and ask them for referrals.
Call the Alz Assocation and ask them.
It depends on the area you live in - how small or large; how close social services are located. First get someone to help you do this basic research.
Gena / Touch Matters
Libraries are not equipped to manage a person with dementia.
This is what day care programs are for - with trained staff.
Some people with dementia are wonderers ... they wonder off - outside and into the streets. They have no idea what they are doing ... where they are going.
A person with Alz needs supervision.
Most also offer a spa day where they will shower him, shave him and even give him a haircut if needed.
They are wonderful. Of course there is a cost(but worth every penny)and if money is an issue they do offer financial help as does the VA if your husband is a veteran.
Most will also send a small bus to pick him up if you're not able to bring him yourself.
And most importantly it will give you the much needed breaks that you need and deserve, to get things done that you need to and want to.
So please call your local Adult Daycare Center today and get him signed up to go. You won't regret it.
I think it is so important to do this, giving yourself a bit of respite, but I ALSO think that you may be coming to the time when you need to at least just begin to explore, consider, weigh how long you can go on doing one on one home care. If you can't afford someone coming in weekly to relieve you it is going to get too tough. At some point you may endanger your own life. If something happens to YOU, what then for him?
I sure wish you luck. This is such a universal problem with so very few solutions.
I hope you let us know if you find anything.