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As for anxiety, watch your breath (inhalation and exhalation) for at least an hour everyday in a comfortable pose with no distractions.
If you've wanted to do it and are still able to do to, what are you waiting for?
Excellent advice here, especially the planning suggestions. Life is precious; live it to the fullest. Take the best possible care of your health. Share your condition with others and seek their support. This life is a mere blip in eternity. Hand it over to a Higher Power.
For immediate relief of anxiety, try sitting, eyes closed and do some deep breathing. Deep breathing at least 5 times per day will help to bring the anxiety down.
Exercise. This means walking or simple arm and leg exercises or dancing or anything you like to do that is movement. It does not need to be aggressive.
Talk with friends and develop a support system. Talk about your fears with trusted people and stay away from those who are negative. Try to be around positive and happy people as their attitudes will rub off on you and distract you from your anxiety.
Music. Listen to music that lifts your spirit. Sing along if you can.
If the anxiety becomes too much, your doctor can prescribe a mild anti anxiety medication as well however you should consider this above suggestions regardless.
Best of luck to you!
Second, and just as important -- is don't feel shame or try to hide your diagnosis -- especially with family. Be honest with yourself and family and tell them up front. Make plans -- then make a plan B, C, D...So many things can change --so be open to adjustments or modifications to your plan. AND SHARE THOSE DESIRES, WISHES, PLANS with your family.
Other:
Don't make living with your children or having children care for you one of your plans! Even when they want to...no one can be prepared for the harshness of dementia and ALZ and the all-encompassing time and skills that takes. So tell your children - No Thanks.
Plan A - "I will be open to in-home help a few hours a week as my disease progresses"
Plan B - I'd like to move into AL with skilled care
Plan C - Memory care (near my home?, near my children?, where I can afford that might not be near my children?
Plan D - Skilled care (NH) when I need it
And please research the costs for each of your plans - in home care can be $15-20/hr; if you need 24 hr care that may be too expensive including upkeep of your home, cleaning, lawncare, etc.
Memory care vs. NH - consider longterm costs. Do you currently have Long Term Care Insurance?
Have frank discussions with your dr. Ask one or more of your friends and children to help keep track of their observations of your memory/behavior/daily skills -- and give them permission to go with you and discuss their observations with your dr along the way. This will help you get the most from your dr visits. PS - a spouse may not always be as helpful with this because they may be too close to you and tell you/dr what you want to hear vs being very objective.
Preparing will relieve you of alot of your anxiety. And live each day to the fullest -- stay active, stay social, avoid isolating yourself from others. Don't think everytime you forget a word, forget an event -- means your ALZ is worsening. Its normal for everyone. You have the diagnosis -- now fight to enjoy each moment when you are lucid.
My mom has dementia, 95. I found 10 years ago she started to deteriorate in small ways. She would repeat herself yes; but she still has many memories and is content and happy to remember those she can. For her it went like this: she couldn't remember what you told her last week; then yesterday; then 10 min ago -- she had vivid memories of what/who 20 years ago; then she forgot that and now she remembers people/places/events from her youth and childhood -- but she can't remember my children (she knows me, I'm her daughter) -- but I don't mourn her loss -- we have great time together and we look at old pictures and she describes what is happening in the pictures (when she was dating my dad; her brothers and sisters (dead but she doesn't remember they died -- she sees them how they were). So don't be afraid; good news is you will make old memories your new memories.
After witnessing this with my mom; i think it is less frightening and we are spending some nice quality time together and living in the moment -- whatever moment that is.
I have had enough health "scares" to realize I need to do what is important now, while I can. That means paying attention to family and friends, visiting while I can, being with them while I can, enjoying them while I can, celebrating our friendship while I can, caring for them while I can. I don't have a brain disease yet, but it may happen, too. So, I do the things that are supposed to help. Exercise (water aerobics classes in the pool at the health club), light weight lifting, daily puzzles, and trying to learn Swedish--since that is my heritage. Anything that is supposed to be good for the brain, I try to incorporate into my life. I want a good brain as I age and If I can help that along, I want to do it. The rest of the body stays healthier, too.
Most of us have the choice to do this. It is up to us to exercise that choice and choose what science is showing works the best. My best wishes for you on this journey!
It is too late for my mother who is in mid-to advanced stages, and for many of our loved ones, but not for you or for those of us who have the discipline and ability to shift our lifestyle.
Do not worry. Read this book and go a step at a time, as you still have time. :-)
He has also teamed up with another doctor, Wes Youngberg, for a four-day program discussing how Alzheimer’s can be halted and even reversed.
My mom showed signs of memory loss in March of 2009. I wish Bredesen book had been available back then. Bredesen and Youngberg also have their information on Vimeo-some info on YouTube too. Wesberg’s Facebook page also has info.
I am a teacher and my mom only has me to care for her. I know it’s been almost ten years since my mom showed first signs and she had a stroke almost three years ago but we are beginning to follow Bredsen’s protocols, like getting enough sleep, if we had dinner at 6 pm, we wait until 6 am to eat again. There are other things to follow but please look up (google) those doctors.
Even though my mom and I have gone through this journey for ten years, I still believe she will improve by following the protocols in Bredsen’s work.
Research "Bach Remedies" or look for the product, "Liddel's ANX".
I would also recommend Coconut Oil (4000mg per day). Unrefined coconut oil.
It was an experiment, and I feel it helped [my dad]. If you can't just eat or cook with it, then take pills. Good oil travels throughout the body, loosening calcified areas...
Eliminate all bad foods...Begin to make or purchase Raw Juices...maybe from a health food store. Good nutrition can really do and change a lot...
I wish you the very best! Calm is good. Live one moment at a time...good to be prepared, yet then let go and LIVE in the NOW.