By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
At the very least, let her go and evict her if she reports you guys to anyone else, like the cops or the FBI or ATF or something. Three strikes she's out!
Seriously, though, I am sorry this is happening to your family. No one needs more stress in their lives right now, and having what seems to be either a wolf in sheep's clothing or a well-meaning less intelligent person literally living in your basement isn't helping.
Since this is the aide's first and only job as a caregiver, I'm not sure she's been 'taught' ANYTHING about ANYTHING, never mind how and when to call APS or CPS, etc. She may just be the type of person who feels she must be the watchdog for the world and report everything she THINKS is true, while only having a tiny fraction of the details. Lots and lots of problems can arise from such a situation, I know, a close family member of mine was reported for 'sexual misconduct' while tending to a patient's G-tube in a nursing home. A CNA saw him with his hands on the 'lower portion of the patient's body', where the G-tube was located, and decided he was 'sexually abusing her' and reported him. He had to spend $3k on an attorney, was fired from his job, and later found to be 100% innocent. And all because a very inexperienced young person 'thought' she saw something she didn't and felt 'compelled' to 'do the right thing'.
There is a very, very fine line between 'doing the right thing' and making absolutely sure you have ALL the facts before trying to ruin someone else's life.
Get rid of her. And best of luck
As mandated reporters, we are taught to err on the side of "call it in" and let the professionals sort out the details.
At least in my professional situation, just to get the reporting agency to actually take a report, you need to have a great deal of persuasive evidence.
If you want to switch aides, fine. But don't do it because the aide was doing her job as she's been taught to do it.
How old is your daughter? It seems she must have felt comfortable with the worker to have offered that comment. As a mandated reporter, I'm not sure how the worker could have justified it if she didn't report it. She sounds honest to me.
Also, if the state is paying her, I'd explore all details about that, before you terminate. Also, explore how you renting to her is impacted by the law. I'd actually get a legal consult about it.
The state is paying a local agency who, in turn, employs the worker.
We have had a friendly relationship with the aide. She knew that my daughter is in therapy. I feel that she should have mentioned her concerns to me about my mother's bruise and what my daughter asked her. Perhaps I'm wrong? That's why I posted here. I feel betrayed by her.
It appears as though there is a lot of blurring of boundaries going on in this relationship with the aide.
I think she was way out of line to get involved with your daughter and report her. If you do keep her, I'd have a very frank conversation with her and establish boundaries that don't include your daughter's concerns. That's beyond the scope of her employment.
I'd also give her an eviction notice and get her out of your house. Not to be critical, but I can't understand why you would want this person in your house, especially after the complaints she made. Is she manipulative? Manipulating you? Who raised the issue of her living there?
Get her out ASAP, but do so in compliance with your state's eviction proceedings. And be present when she packs and leaves.
Even if you do keep her on as an aide, allowing her to live in your home opens you to so many potentially undesirable situations. What if she wants to bring her friends over? Do you want that kind of traffic in your home?
I suspect there's more going on here, including the possibility that the aide might not have been able to get employment through an agency and defaulted to the State. Just my opinion, but I'm not convinced that a state agency would be as competitive and choosy as a private sector company would be.
Also, exactly what ARE her responsibilities as an aide? I'm assuming that finances are a concern and that's why you've gotten a state aide as opposed to a private sector aide?
Yes, there is a money issue which is why we are renting the basement apartment.
This is her first job as a healthcare aide, although she claims she took care of her in-laws (she's newly divorces) Yes, she is manipulative and a know it all.
At first I thought the renting to her was a "God-send" especially since the COVID -19 has resulted in a 25% cut in my husbands pay. Now I'm not so sure.
Talk with legal counsel and find out how to do this so she can not have any legal recourse to fight you.
Personally I don't think I could be civil to anyone that just traumatized my little girl further. I would not be a pleasant adversary in that situation. She could do untold harm because she thinks she is the smartest person in the room. She just made it unsafe for your daughter to ask questions.
Her doing this seems like a power play, so be very careful dealing with her. If possible record interactions, never be alone with her and make sure that you change all the locks if she has had access to the keys.
You won't have any problems renting the space out. People are always looking for a single room at a livable rate. This arrangement gives her to much access to your family's personal life and she has abused that.
Protect yourselves and find out how to get rid of her. Remember that if she gets fired she probably won't be paying rent, so plan your steps wisely while keeping your eyes on her. This sounds malicious.
See All Answers