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This was in response to a few atypical cells being found in fluid drained from around mom's lungs. The oncologist at the hospital she was in scheduled a bone marrow biopsy. Mom was 89, had CHF and Mild Cognitive Impairment. She was not going to agree to chemo or radiation or anything other than comfort. We didn't do the biopsy.
OldSailor, we know how much you love your wife. You are not being neglectful. You are being sensible and loving.
I rolled mom in. I told the tech that I don't think it's possible to do a mammo on mom. She said that it's been done with other patients. Well, we tried and tried to get mom's breast in between those 2 plates. But she was not having it. She kept wiggling. In the end, the technician gave up.
Reading the above comments, I like what that wise geriatrician said. It makes sense. If you're not planning to go through the treatments, then it's best to not do the mammo.
Mammograms HURT.
How in the world would she handle any type of treatment if anything was found?
I believe there is a point at which various medical tests and procedures should taper off.
It was my choice for two reasons.
One - it always hurt.
Two - I have no intention of being poked or prodded. I will have nothing intrusive or invasive.
All I want is to be comfortable (as best they can) and still keep some dignity.
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I would not get screening mammograms if I had FTD.
My own Mom was like that because her sister had passed from breast cancer over 45 years old, so my Mom was scared it would happen to her. So Mom kept having mammograms up into her late 90's. I know, totally ridiculous to go through all of that.
It was my Mom who insisted, even though her GYN said she no longer needed them. It wasn't easy, as it took two techs to handle my very frail, hard of hearing, fall risk Mom.
I had breast cancer but it was caught early, had major surgery, no chemo or radiation, but the daily pill I had to take for 5 years caused major, and I mean major side effects. I really believe with someone who had dementia, the surgery alone would put that person into the next phase of dementia, and those pills would make life miserable.
No.
You can ask whoever bathes her to run a discreet check, if you like. What to look/feel for is widely available on the internet.
I would never discourage anyone, particularly anyone with a relevant family history, from getting a mammogram if they will find it reassuring. But I have said before: I'm not sticking my t**s in a mangle to amuse anyone. I check regularly instead.
My intentions are to keep her as long and make as comfortable as possible. I have heard that people with these diseases will die from one of two things. Either the disease or no being able to tell us of other medical problems.
I don't want make things more complicated they are already.
Thank you all so very much for your comments. I do appreciate them.
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