By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Several reasons for this;
Half the cost
Less disruptive to your Grandmother
(who knows -- she may really enjoy being the one "in charge" of a stranger)
Less chance of disease -- even the best-run facilities have residents returning from the hospital with MRSA, c.difficile, & all other kinds of nasty little bugs that you DON'T have at home
Odd question -- is your GRANDMOTHER'S money that your mother is spending, or her OWN money that she isn't giving you?
FYI HAVE A GREAT TIME ON THE CRUISE!
There is nothing cruel about the desire to move forward with your cruise plans.
As far as Gramma's care while you're away, the nursing home may be the best for you and for her simply because you'll all have less worries about whether care will be available at all times.
Her funds should pay for her respite care if she has funds available.
I know that arranging for respite care isn't easy...but it's so worth it and NEEDED! For your own sake, put any guilt that you have about going on the cruise aside and go enjoy yourselves. :)
Respite care should come out of Grandma's funds. Is that possible? If your mother is managing your grandma's funds for her care, respite care is part of that. Caring for this woman should not be draining you dry financially if she has funds. She should be paying her own way.
The NH is the better option, unless other family is available to oversee the agency.
It might be easier to have your grandmother stay in your home and have the nursing agency take care of her needs. But, from past experience sometimes the nursing agencies are not able to provide care if a worker calls out sick, etc. This happened to my elderly aunt and it was very difficult to find someone else to fill in. The nursing home is an option that would give her quality care as you already know they are the best in the community. Plus, would give you peace of mind. Of course, the downside to this is how well she would adjust to a new environment. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about something that would be so good for you and your family. You deserve it. Take care.