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Really, at some point these medications, and what will happen for the lack of them is a somewhat moot point. There comes a time when life is an onerous battle for a meaningless existence and a battle over medications simply is not worth it.
It's time to have "THE discussion" with your mother's doctor. Exactly which medications MUST be given and how do the doc propose that can be accomplished?
Short of putting them in food where they are often tasted, there are few ways to get this done finally. Is hospice or palliative care now an option for your Mom, and etc.
It is time for the hard questions and the uncomfortable answers.
I am very sorry.
Not everything can be fixed, and for refusal to swallow medications? Very few bullet-proof options exist.
This and the fact that she was no longer safe alone , led to her being placed in assisted living , where she continued to refuse her diuretic pill on and off because she didn’t want to have to pee . She understood what could happen by refusing it , but did not care anymore . She said “ whatever happens , happens”.
Her last 3 months she was “ wanting it to be over”.
Let Mom live on her terms at this point . Perhaps she is hoping to not prolong her life with dementia .
As AlvaDeer said, there comes a point where taking the meds no longer matters.
In his final days, the only med that mattered was morphine and they gave him that in liquid form. I don’t even think he needed to swallow it.
Sometimes it's a matter of just figuring out the right thing to say. I took care of this one lady she wouldnt take her meds for me for nothing. She would tell me, I know "they" set you up to this. Finally I told her your right , "they" did, and I'm so sorry but "they' won't let me come anymore and see you if you won't take your meds. She really liked me, she took those pills so quick after that, and Everytime I saw her after. This could of backfired on me and of been worse, but for this one time it worked.
Maybe tell your mom , they won't let you visit any more unless she takes her meds.
Best of luck