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Best of luck to you.
Best of luck to you.
Can you afford to have a cleaner come in monthly? If yes, I highly recommend that and spraying the bathroom down with sniper daily, that can help with odor between deep cleans. You can safely use this product everywhere and anywhere you need odor control and sanitization, clothing, furniture etc, all safe.
Good luck finding a workable solution.
If he's able, a funnel from Walmart automotive dept. has been very helpful (No doubt that's amusing but it WORKS). I was sick and tired of the mess, smell and another disgusting chore.
Peeing all over the toilet area makes me so angry!
I find that I have to go to the bathroom more frequently. I am 68. I do drink a fair amount of coffee and tea which is a diuretic.
Have you tried this remedy yourself?
As far as the toilet goes there are so many different products.
Do you rent or buy?
A friend of mine who used the original Comet cleaner was upset when her landlord told her to stop using it.
She loved the product but she was ruining the surface when she cleaned.
Cleaning on a regular basis with Comet scouring powder will damage porcelain toilets.
If you don’t want to try that, spray with any bathroom cleaner, let sit for a few hours to dissolve rustiness, the wipe away. Perhaps you could try a disposable pad and wrap around toilet base and floor - you’d have to be careful not to make a tripping hazard.
My husband also can make a mess. I try to go in right after him and wipe up if needed. The longer you let it go, the more difficult it is to clean. But I know it’s difficult when you are the caregiver to do it all.
As for carpet, try one of those enzyme cleaners made for pet messes (they have for human messes too). Remember a fresh stain is always easier to clean than an old set in one.
On carpet follow directions on cleaner and do not rub…blot on an old white towel that you can toss or wash towel with a little bleach when you are done. Blotting with a white towel will let you see the stain transferred from carpet to towel. It’s next to impossible to tell with any other color of towel. I used buy some cheap white towels just for purposes of cleaning carpet stains. Blotting the stain up on a white towel will take a fair amount of time. Keep changing position of towel to a clean area of towel when you see stain coming up. Keep going until you don’t see anymore stain transfer on white towel. Then get another white towel and stand on it over stain to help dry area.
But again, when you see it happen clean it right then if at all possible, or at least as soon as possible,
Dab with an absorbent material (old towel, paper towel, sponge) as much as you can. Mix in a bowl 2 tablespoons baking soda, 2 tablespoons hydrogen peroxide, and 2 tablespoons dish soap. Mix well and then add 2 tablespoons of water. After well mixed poor into a spray bottle. if the material is colored test it in an inconspicuous place 1st. Spray the area with the pee or poo scrub gently with a soft brush. Let it sit for about 5 minutes, dab it dry with a clean cloth. Spray again with fresh water dab it again. Let it dry and the stain and the smell will be gone from the fabric.
The toilet I would clean it with peroxide alone. Soak the crusted thing with peroxide, for a few minutes to soften it up. and then use a brush to scrub it. I am not sure if you would be able to use peroxide on the vinyl flooring.
Hydrogen peroxide works really well on human and pet fluids.
Best wishes
I hope you have a rug shampooer. If you don't, get one. I can't imagine not having a rug shampooer and I don't even live with incontinent people.
There is a product for smells called Pooph!. It's available from Amazon and I think Target too. This product is like a miracle for smells.
I had which I believe is about the most nasty and disgusting job on earth. I was a visiting CNA/caregiver to people in their homes. I did this work for 25 years. If there was no product like Pooph! available years ago. It eliminates every smell. There's even one for the laundry.
Pick up the products mentioned here, and you'll do all right with getting it cleaned up.
Regarding the 66 years old ….My husband was always neat until he got old er. It is common for worse aim and more mess as they age because the stream is not as strong , they lose the good arc and they tend to dribble more when they think they are done . Most men have at least some enlargement of the prostate as they get older causing these issues .
My DH had a benign prostate tumor causing urine retention as well . He had surgery .
Good luck!
If he's crapping himself, pull-ups are not the right product for him anymore.
He may be at the point where you might want to consider placing him in managed care. There's no shame in having to place someone if you can't provide for their care needs anymore.
I too am super sensitive to smells. I have so many air fresheners all over my dad's house. Before my stepmom passed everything they used was scent-free. I can't do it any longer. I changed all the laundry detergent, fabric softener, bath and body soaps, air fresheners, Fabreeze, etc... I need to smell something other than "old" people smell.
Thankfully my father has been understanding.
I have even baked dozens of cookies to make the house smell nice.
Hang in there.
Starr
He does sit down to pee and still gets it on the floor. As I mentioned in my answer below, it must leak out the sides or something.
He didn't like it much at first, but I was insistent and told him he didn't have a choice anymore. I used the bedside commode and put it over the top of his toilet so he was sitting up a bit higher as he was a fall risk, and could use the side handles to get himself up.
As far as getting the poop out of the carpet, any heavy duty carpet cleaner should do the trick, especially if it's designed to get out pet accidents.
It also may be time for your husband to wear Depends(or the like)full-time now if he's pooping on the floor and can no longer get his pee in the toilet. That will be the next step you know, and that step may be here now.