By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
If sister wants to pay full market value and mom wants to sell it to her thats moms choice.
But it sounds like mom is being manipulated and pressured by your other two sisters which is not cool.
As for the in-laws it's not your monkeys and not your circus. You have enough problems in your own messed up family dynamic to worry about someone else's family.
Survivors Benefit Amount
From SSA.gov:
Surviving spouse, full retirement age or older — 100% of the deceased worker's benefit amount.
Surviving spouse, age 60 — through full retirement age — 71½ to 99% of the deceased worker's basic amount.
Surviving spouse with a disability aged 50 through 59 — 71½%.
If Mom is TRULY LUCID regarding the aspects of this situation, SHE needs a good family practice lawyer’s opinion. She also needs to get her paperwork in order for POA and her will. If that hasn’t been done none of you will be able to take charge when/if necessary.
If she is dealing with “a little forgetfulness”, “needs a little help that she didn’t need a year ago”, “doesn’t always lock her door or sometimes leaves pots on a hot stove burner” or “doesn’t seem to keep herself up and dress as well as she was before” or any other observable changes over the last 12-18 months, she also needs a physical and medical opinion.
If you have ANY SAY among your siblings, you may want to suggest that ALL OF YOU get out of the picture as far as decision making that at least for now, belongs to Mom.
You decision, right now, is fine. Stick to it.
Would she like sis to move out?
Will she tell her that?
Discuss the house, the visiting kid, future care plans that Mom prefers, etc. It may seem daunting but if you do have a meeting you will not regret it.
Good luck!
Peggy Sue's in-laws have an aide whose child or niece is staying there.
Peggy Sue, is that correct?
2. Will mom ever need Medicaid for LTC? Only say "no" if she has at least 2 million in reserve aside from home. Because this "deal" isn't going to sit well with them.
2. There’s about 1.5m remaining in mom’s retirement accounts. Beyond this, she only has the social security that stay at home moms do. If she exhausts that, however, I don’t want her to go the Medicaid route.
People get pneumonia shots today. I was a caregiver for a long time and can tell you that children can be like a tonic for the elderly. Clearly the mother doesn't really need hands-on care if she's still able to drive herself places. So what's wrong with having the kid around of she likes them?
I used to bring my boy around on some cases that did not involve any hands-on care. The old people loved him. A situation like that could very well be what's going on.