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I am sorry, but your problems are way too dire and complex for the "opinions" of a Forum of strangers. I cannot imagine how we could do anything to help you other than to offer you our sympathy and to suggest you reach out to any support systems you can find in your own area.
I surely do wish you the very best of luck.
If your sister owns the house she will have to legally evict you. Stay put. She will have to go to court. You will be given a 30 day notice WHEN this comes up before a judge and that can take a while. It is not legal for her or anyone to come in and toss your belongings out. A sheriff will accompany her (or the owner) at the 30 day time to make sure that you do vacate. I would though start packing up your belongings. Donate what you don't want, sell what you can and pack up the rest.
Do no further repairs on the house.
If the house was left to all of you then you can force siblings to "buy you out" and they have to give you Fair Market Value" of your portion of the property.
Technically your sister did allow you to remain there while you were caring for mom but as with all property there is a cost. If repairs are needed, general upkeep and insurance and taxes need to be paid then coming up with that cash is difficult if you are there and not paying rent.
Honestly $500. 00 is a bargain. And as landlord she would have to make all repairs.
Assumptions - may have been many here?? Or was there a clear understanding made?
Obligations may look & feel differently to different people.
Broken promises?
Or change of mind?
Reasonable? Not reasonable?
Was the caregiving you provided your gift? Or was it a deal?
A *Care for Housing* deal?
Did it have a time frame?
Can you save your relationship with your sister? Hear each other's side & find a path forward. A NEW DEAL that works for both of you?
Like another poster yesterday, you may need a third party to be mediator/referee between you.
Did you know that Sis owned the house, not M? Are you sure that Sis owns it? Do you know what was in M's will? Perhaps Sis is executor of M's will, and needs to deal with the estate. Do you know if you are a beneficiary under M's will, if any? Have you contacted your brother and sister - they didn't want to do caring, but should know about the will and estate.
A big part of this problem is that the whole arrangement wasn't clear to anyone - probably including M and BF. This is yet another problem with ‘honoring a word’ instead of having a written agreement. Stay put until the eviction is legal. If you can get it to court, do that because it will be quite embarrassing for her. It may also sort out some of these questions for you. But think about your future - you certainly can't stay there forever.
You and your boyfriend basically made a common and familar unspoken caregiver deal that gets made every day, especially within familes.
Free rent in exchange for live-in caregiving.
The caregiver almost always gets the brown end of the stick with this deal.
You had to put some money in. You should have paid for the roof and the hot water heater out of your mother's money. Not yours. Live and learn. It's too late now.
If your sister will let you stay at only $500 a month, I say take it. You will never find a house for that or even a decent rent for that money.
Stay there but make your sister give you a written lease stating how much the rent is. Once you have this, you have rights. She becomes the landlord/lady. If something breaks, she is responsible for fixing or replacing it. If your personal property gets damaged because she doesn't keep the rental in good repair, you can sue for damages.
Take the $500 a month deal.
So let her evict you. Here, it takes about 6 months. There is a process. You will end up in court at which time you state your case. The Judge will make the ruling. If you can't afford a lawyer, call Office of Aging for the number of Legal Aid. They work scale.
Always get deals in writing.