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My other comment is that my sisters and I have always shared all the information like this. I’ve never seen the need to keep it secret. It makes life a lot simpler if people know the facts and trust each other. Secrecy makes people suspicious. But your sister may not be ‘trustworthy’, perhaps.
she has only accused us constantly until we finally had to block,her. On her occasional visit to our dad, she has verbally elder abused him . He has early dementia and she has told him that we stole his cars and stole 70,000 dollars out of his account. My dad lives off his pension only . If I didn’t have my husbands support as well as my brother I don’t know how I would cope. My entire family is under stress. Her family won’t get her help.
You wrote that she clearly has mental problems. If so, you can't do anything about it. Save your emotional and mental and physical energy for reality and your responsibilities, not trying to appease a bully with self-serving motives.
I am sure that this situation is causing your father distress. Neither you or your dad should have to be dealing with this situation.
Looks like your sister is carrying out her threat. What in the world is she hoping to accomplish by doing this? Other than wreaking havoc in your lives?
Bullies are generally very insecure people who are miserable.
Google her lawyer’s name + prepaid legal
I think she has no attorney because an attorney would know better than to think he has any right to ask details of anything regarding mom's finances from her POA. He wouldn't ask such a think. He could threaten to go to court and ask the judge (the only one with a right to question and ask for proof). LET them. Let her pay for it. This OP is protected and her POA pays for her court costs. Sissy has no such protection. She is going to be paying between 350 and 700 an hour to some greedy attorney. Aint gonna happen. She has been already closed out by this family. It is clear she is angry and jealous. She should not be talked to .
If our OP, Anna, is worried she should hire an elder law attorney to reassure her that she is immune from these idle threats, because the POA DOES PAY FOR HER.
A good and decent attorney would likely answer her on the phone for such a call if she calls the office and says "I am my mom's POA and my sister who has been astranged is questioning my POA and threatening to take me to court; can she". I think she would be very reassured if she just checks this out for herself.
Your sister is not going to get any attorney to handle this--b/c what you are doing is RIGHT and she's mad? You can sue someone for basically nothing--but you'll probably lose and end up paying the lawyer AND court fees and sometimes "waste of time" fees, if the judge (should it get that far) finds that this is simply sibling squabbling.
I remember my son's first case in front of a judge. I asked him how it went and he said "Boring, and my client not just lost, he got deported, too". However, my son had been paid upfront and told his client shouldn't go ahead with this lawsuit..but still chose to.
Lawyers are not that scary.( And honestly? Most never see the inside of a courtroom. )
I am sorry your sister is being a jerk. Just go grey rock with her, keep you own good records and don't tell her anything.
I remember years ago when those of us who had siblings were venting our frustrations, there was a poster who would occasionally say that after hearing our stories, he felt lucky to be an only child. 😝
There are pros and cons to all situations. Unfortunately, you are experiencing the crappy side of things at the moment.
I am sorry that you are experiencing such drama. Has she always caused a scene in your family? Or is this behavior out of character for your sister?
If any kind of investigation is done and everything is in order, the case will be resolved soon.
Wishing you all the best.
You are not obligated to tell her anything. Your correct that Dads info is confidential. I think u need to consult a lawyer. Sure u can use Dads money to do this. Ur lawyer can send a letter to her lawyer saying that information will not be forth coming because the sister, not being POA, is not privleged to that info. That your POA went into effect ? and any money your Dad spent before that has nothing to do with your POA. That you do not have to supply those bank records. The info at this time, is not privy his client. Sister is not entitled to bank records either. You are his representive.
Send them nothing. The lawyer is fishing. He knows that your sister has no leg to stand on. He is just taking her money. You do need a lawyer to answer, IMO.
Stop discussing ANYTHING with her.
Tell her you will see her and her attorney in court when you are called to testify.
Tell her meanwhile she is too annoying for you to have to deal with while you are doing the heavy lifting. HANG UP the phone. That's what is done with annoying people.
She is making idle threats.
If she wants to hire an attorney let her pay the big bucks and tell her best of luck. NO ATTORNEY should be asking you to discuss your father's affairs. Tell him that as POA you are not at liberty to discuss your principal's private financial affairs, and that you will gladly bring your files into court should a court so summon you.
THEN get an attorney. And your POA pays for that, by the way.