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If you are asking about moral responsibility, again, there is none. This gentleman is still driving. So is my guy at 84 and he's excellent. Whether he is safe to drive or not isn't your business or your concern.
Will you at some point get a call that while they were out they were in an accident? That one of them fell? Perhaps. You are BOUND to get "the call" about "something" soon enough in any case.
I would not interfere on the face of what you have told us. I am certain other may. I would not.
I see below that you say you are POA. I have zero idea the level of dementia your mother suffers from. Only you know that. If you feel her dementia is so severe that she has no idea where she wants to go or why? Then, yes, you have some call to make here. However you tell us she has a beau, wants to get her hair done, get manicures, go to the farm stand, go for ice cream and go out to restaurants. To ME that isn't someone with a level of dementia in which she cannot make those decisions for herself.
I'd rather die enjoying myself than being cooped up in a building because someone is afraid that I might fall or be in a car wreck.
The way I see it, any one of us could fall, choke, or be in a car accident at any age. Teenagers tend to get into car accidents more so then older folks. And with regard to this gentleman having problems with walking, people of all ages who have problems with walking do drive. If this gentleman's children haven't stopped him from driving, then they feel he is ok to drive.
Let your Mom enjoy herself, my gosh she is 100 years old, and still on the go. Amazing and delightful. Otherwise if Mom is tethered to the Assisted Living, never to go out, she could pass on quicker as her brain isn't being challenged.
Just a few days ago an 80 yr old man drove around a blocked out road closed due to flash flood and died, (his car and he were found the next day). In this case, he may have have a suicide wish.
Let her enjoy her time left in this world.
Reason for my reply, he could kill someone. If he can hardly walk, then he is not capable of driving a car. He probably doesn't have the leg strength to stop a car if a car stops in front of him suddenly or a kid rides a bike right in front of him.
Yes, he should'nt be driving and she shouldn't be leaving without being accompanied by an able bodied assistant.
Your options:
1 - Move mom from assisted living to skilled care or memory care that will not allow her to leave facility without POA approval.
2 - Put an air tag on mom - probably her purse or a life alert type of jewelry (necklace) so you know where she is at all times.
3 - Have another talk with this friend and explain your concerns. Give him options that let him know that longer drives/outings are out of the picture. Let him know consequences could result in her not being allowed out of facility with him.
Let her have some companion and freedom of doing so.
This reminds me of Jeanne Louise Calment, french woman who lived 122 years. I believe at age 117 she quit smoking as advised by doctor.
Or she was advised to quit smoking and eating huge amounts of chocolate? She ate half a pound a day or so.
So maybe she quit both.
I can understand smoking but chocolates, non.