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Perhaps you could hire a care manager to help find her a new place?
This is going to be a big adjustment for your mom either way.
I do understand not having the energy to deal with the facility but all this seems so high handed.
I have not dealt with memory care and others who have may feel differently.
On the other hand, mom is 98. At that age, a hospitalization can change her health profile instantly, and cause dementia to go downhill rapidly. 98 with dementia is reason enough for hospice, "Senile Degeneration of the Brain " is the Medicare code. And you do travel a lot. Memory Care provides a lot more care than AL does, I know because my mother went from AL to MC after a hospitalization too.
But, I agreed to it. If you want to hold off on this, make your wishes known as your mom's advocate and the payor of her bills. Unless she's in such immediate danger, and then she should probably go back to the ER for an MRI to see if she's having strokes.
It seems like you should pay eyes on your mom before you'll feel comfy making a decision.
Best of luck advocating for mom.
You don’t have a family support system. That makes it hard on you. But how about if you could accept the support system that’s available to you - the facility where she lives. Make them your partner, not your adversary. Adopt the attitude that you’re all in this together to help mom.
This is a matter of acceptance of what is rather than what was. You’re fortunate that she’s in a place where she can upgrade to the level of care she needs.
Your profile says your mom is 98. She is apparently now closing in on the end of her life, and she is in need of more care. However, I find the recommendation for Hospice confusing.
A) Hospice itself no longer provides much care at all. A few bedbaths a week, one RN visit a week, a phone call to family from clergy and from Social Worker. That's about it and for that the compensation from medicare is enormous. This has made Hospice the darling of hedgefunds currently. BUT, and however, Hospice is still END OF LIFE CARE, and that needs to be clear. Hospice nursing has access to drugs, and these drugs are meant for comfort for end of life. Hospice is NOT meant to help out caregivers, tho currently MDs fudge stuff a bit to get it in the door.
B) You have been told there is a hospice care fee.
I never heard of such a thing and this is a hefty fee.
WHAT IS IT FOR?
If your mother is requiring a personal aid I get it.
I otherwise do not.
I am sorry you are out of town because I myself would have questions here.
Some things seem to be missing here.
I think a larger discussion is needed with the administration.
I wish you the very best.
That seems outrageous and out of line,.
With Hospice the facility CNA will not be doing a bath or shower so that frees up the facility CNA.
With Hospice providing gloves, barrier cream, incontinence briefs, pads and other supplies there is no need for you or the facility to purchase them,
With Hospice the Hospice Doctor will be your mom's doctor not the facility doctor.
With Hospice the Nurse from Hospice will be monitoring mom so there is less the facility nurse has to do. Other than administering meds and there will probably be fewer meds or the same amount of meds not more so the facility nurse is not doing more.
So this added fee seems outrageous.
You can contact the Hospice that will be caring for mom and ask them to ask the facility to wait.
You can also contact ANY Hospice of your choosing and select that Hospice not the one that the facility is suggesting.
Hospice can take mom and place her in "Respite" for the time you are away and then you can be there for the move when you return. That does mean she will be in a Hospice In Patient Unit for a few days.
Hospice could even call the few days in the In Patient Unit "Symptom management" or "Pain management" All would be covered by Medicare or Medicaid with no added cost for the In Patient Unit.