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Unfortunately, though there's certainly a compunction to help our spouses to understand what's going on and what we are going through, they are no longer capable. I'm sorry, OP, but the truth is that their illness becomes our little red wagon to pull.
One reason we want to keep explaining to them is that we hope for support for what we're going through as a result of their dementia. After all, we always confided in our spouses when we felt unsure or needed help before, right?
However, the nature of dementia is often that they deny their problems and lose empathy for others. We're better off seeking support from someone else.
What you can best do now is to educate yourself. I recommend Teepa Snow's videos to you, and there are many support groups on media like facebook for families. There is a huge amount of information online. Oliver Sacks has wonderful writing about the aging brain. The more you can learn the more it will help you now.
I wish you the best of luck.
He may get it for a fleeting moment, or a few hours or maybe a day. But when that explanation is gone you start over from the beginning.
I urge you to contact his doctor and discuss antianxiety medications. If he is on one maybe adjusting the dose or trying another. (Be VERY cautious if the dementia he has been diagnosed with is Lewy Body Dementia some typical medications given for anxiety for other patients can cause harm to those with LBD)
Some things you can say.
Your mind is not working the way it should
The picture the doctor took of your brain shows that it is a bit fuzzy.
I do urge you to consult with an Elder Care Attorney and make sure all your "ducks are in a row" and that you have all the paperwork you need that will help you care for him in the best way possible.
If he is a Veteran contact the Veterans Assistance Commission or the VA and find out if he is entitled to any benefits or services. And if he is a Veteran YOU can get paid to care for him.
More important is for you to make sure all the legal documents are in order before he becomes totally mentally incapacitated.
DPOA, Will with PR, accounts either joint WROS or beneficiaries in place.
You are in for one heck of a ride, strap yourself in!
Wishing you the best, take care of you as well.
What you should do instead is educated yourself. Start with Teepa Snow's videos about dementia on youtube. She will help you understand communicating with those with dementia.
The internet is a WEALTH of information for you. It will help you enormously. There are support groups all over facebook, I imagine on other Forums, and here, and you can read and read and read and never learn enough. Each of us on this journey is learning more every day.
Best out to you. Welcome to the Forum.
Anyone else heard that?
Reckon I'd be the same. Trusting what I think..
'Anosognosia' is the name of this condition. It's more than denial, which seems to function as an emotional defence (for protection). Therapy can help break through denial. Not with this...
Anosognosia is lack of insight. Very common with dementa, stroke survivors, ABI & severe mental illnesses (so the Dr told me). I don't think it improves, I am so sorry.
My mother , I believe was totally unaware even from the beginning that she had any issues and I never used the word dementia to her .
My Father in law wasn’t aware but I think on some level is now aware he’s having problems . However, is hell bent on proving he’s independent . He was told by the doctor he has cognitive problems and he got angry and said “ they are trying to take away my independence . They are wrong , my brain is as good as ever “ . We do not mention it , sometimes we will tell him he’s forgetful . like when he complains he wants to move out of assisted living etc.
I don’t see the point in telling if it is upsetting . If medications are needed at some point for anxiety , depression . Just fib and say it’s vitamin D and B12 , for bones and energy .