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My 2c to add;
* Falls Prevention stategies.
Keep discussing with staff what is working & what isn't.
Low laying bed - good.
Reduced furnitute to hit head on - good.
? Maybe the bed against one wall
? Maybe a spare mattress along the open side
While volunteering, I would be the extra eyes & hands to sit with *very high falls risk* people. One was a retired Doctor, a lovely man, that would forgot he couldn't really walk & would leap up from his wheelchair at random times.
Once calm, these people would be sat in a day room, so staff could supervise & hoepfully prevent falls.
*Communication.
As hard as it is to hear screaming & yelling, it may be how your Husband is able to communicate his feelings right now.
I hope things improve soon 🙏
many thanks! good insight -that screaming way for him to communicate/they have put rubber mats on both sides of bed & yes after breakfast they do put him in lounge in wheelchair but he tries to get out & go back to bed /why still don’t und is why seeing me triggers
outburst & screams @ me to “get out”
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They don’t sound too great- maybe check out a couple others and ask them ( as the professionals) what plans they exercise for people with your fathers condition - I bet they’d offer some sound advice if they were any good
the facility also told you not staffed enough to monitor fully
the facility really doesn’t sound too great ?
Talk to the physican on staff (not just the nurses or dept mgr).
Speak to the administrator and ask that person how they manage a resident / patient exhibiting these behaviors (i.e., when might they want to release him - and do they have the LEGAL right to do that ... if he has no where else to go?
Gena / Touch Matters
Therefore it is important that the facility understand that hubby cannot return home.
What MAY more likely happen if this extreme agitation continues is a transfer to acute care either hospital or psychiatric facility where they can attempt to find a drug or drug cocktail that can provide hubby some relief without knocking him out. This takes some trial and error often enough.
You message to us is a bit confused and confusing and I think this awful circumstance has thrown you into a whirlwind of anxiety and fear. So I am going to advise you:
1. DEEP BREATHES. 10 of them in and out slowly. OFTEN.
2. Ask to speak to Social Worker or charge nurse of doctor who is appropriate to speak with at this particular facility.
Tell this person that:
A) Any thought of hubby coming back home is out of the question. You can no longer care for him.
B) Ask for what plan if any is afoot involving his care.
C) Tell them you are very anxious about all this, and must remain fully informed; as that you be contacted for any plans, any changes.
I am so sorry for these heartbreaking circumstances and I wish you the best of luck, hoping you will update us.
The medication can be tricky if he has LBD and not a Vascular dementia or Alzheimer's.
If he is trying to get out of the wheelchair request the doctor order a "Tilt back" wheelchair. The back can be tilted so that it makes it much more difficult to get out of and it also makes it more difficult to fall out of.
And since you seem to be a trigger for him right now, I would perhaps keep your visits to a bare minimum for a while, until the facility can get his medications adjusted accordingly.
Dementia sucks!!!
How long has he been in this facility? Is he in MC?
Is he currently on medications for his agitation/anxiety? If not, it is urgent to have his doctor get this to happen.
Has he been checked for a UTI?
How old is he?
What state are you in?
If he is a fall risk, his bed needs to be lowered all the way down, or he can get a concave mattress, or put his current mattress directly onto the floor.
For his wheelchair, I think what restraints they are legally able and willing to use will be discussed at the meeting. I think it varies by state.