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So until then is there a way to block off your upper level so your husband can't get up there? That might be a temporary fix.
But if he is wandering especially outside, that is a sure sign that he may have to live out his days in a locked memory care facility, where he will be kept safe, and you won't have to worry about him getting lost.
It's tough, I know, but you now have to do what is best for the both of you.
What is your daughter’s concern as it relates to the stairs? It doesn’t sound like he has problems with mobility.
As Souternwaver suggested, what about a bedroom on the first floor?
I could name many reasons to not move but what is her reason for wanting you to?
Your daughter and you know more about your living circumstances and safety than I can know, but this sounds to me like a whole lot of complicated travail in an already horribly complicated life. I can't know what your home is like, but it may be making more sense at this point to simply close off the upper story and move into the lower completely.
I sure wish you good luck in future decisions that are tough to make.
Believe me, he will figure out how to get out of the house 1st or 2nd floor.
His safety and your peace of mind must come first.
Please don’t hesitate to look into facility care if you feel like it is no longer safe for your husband to be at home.
I certainly understand that your daughter is concerned about her dad living in a two story home. It would be awful if your husband tumbled down the stairs.
Wishing you peace as you continue on this difficult journey of caregiving.
I’d suggest that you talk some more to your daughter. She may be finding it difficult to say that you need this, too.
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