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How old is your grandmother?
She may suffere from depression and needs medication to help her. When they get like this, not too much you can do especially when they are very very old.
Listen to your grandmother. Tell her you understand she is exhausted with life. Ask her if there is anything the two of you can do together that she would enjoy. Play a funny movie. Mostly just listen and don't try to reassure. Try only to tell her you hear her and you understand, and that you think you know some of how hard this is on her, that you treasure her and don't wish to lose her, but that you understand.
My best to you.
I think your grandmother is in the same place. There's not much you can do except to be a sympathetic ear, and if she believes in God, tell her that he must have a plan for her. She is at the end of her life, and it's hard to get excited about anything anymore or to look forward to anything.
Frankly, I don't agree with drugging her for depression. Her feelings are real and legitimate, and she's entitled to feel them.
Feel blessed she feels able to be honest with you.
Listen to her. This will make her feel valued.
Tell her she will go when her time comes.
When her maker (depending on her faith) says it's time, or what I say is, when Mother Nature decides.
For her, but also for yourself, to make the visit nicer, maybe think of something joyful to add, no matter how small. Bring bright flowers, recap a fond memory, read aloud from a book. Playing music from her younger days may bring joy. (So much is available now on any smart phone at the touch of an app).
It's fairly normal I think. This is part of aging. Part of your Grandmother letting go.
Kind thoughts to you & your Grandmother today.