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It is dangerous for OP to be in the same house with this man. The chances of a sexual assault is very high in this scenario.
How old is your dad?
Do you live with him?
What are his health issues besides dementia?
Not a lot to go on if you could fill us in.
DO NOT be his caregiver for any reason. If you have to abandon him and go to a womens' shelter do it because you will be safer there than with him. Don't stay there. Your safety is more important than any care he may need.
I did homecare for a long time, 25 years. I never tolerated hypersexual behavior from anyone regardless of their age. A few clients over the years who were not weak and feeble, got the pepper spray and one got a skillet to the face when their 'hypersexual behavior' graduated to attempted sexual assault.
Get out of that house today. Or call 911 and tell the police he's threatening to kill you and himself and you're in fear. They will take him to the hospital. That will give you a bit of respite to get your things together and leave.
Were it me, this is what I would do.
I would not return to the home.
I would call APS and report dad as a senior at risk. I would say I am afraid and unable to return to the home. I would ask for a wellness check. I would ask for transport to hospital. I would ask for state guardianship.
If none of those things happened I STILL would not return to the home.
Your father is only 76. He may have dementia or he may have mental issues, but none of them are in your control.
If you have to remove yourself to shelter then gather your things with the help of a friend, neighbor or police.
When did your father first exhibit this behavior?
What symptoms have you been seeing, and for how long, that would indicate dementia?
What testing has been done?
Do you live nearby your father?
Does you father still live alone and manage his own affairs.
While I am gone from Forum for a month after tomorrow, your filling these details in will help others to help you.
Meanwhile do know that this is a MEDICAL problem, almost certainly.
This is horrible for your mental state, you also need to get some therapy.
I agree with Joann to if you are in the house with him have your phone on you at all times, and also record everything. I'm glad your nephew believed you. .
Keep us posted please.
If for some reason you don't get help after calling 911 then I'd contact social services for your county and ask for a social worker. You may need to have APS come in. If no one is the PoA for your Father, then social services can work to get a legal guardian assigned to him. That legal guardian will manage all his affairs and find placement for him. So, if you're in his house, you may not be able to stay there in these circumstances. You will need to decide your role in caregiving, if any.
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