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When your Aunt and Grandma went to see him in the hospital, and he was " already in a come", what did they tell grandma about what had happened?

Had for father been ill before this summer? Can you just put gm in the car and take her to the NH? She doesn't have to do anything, just be there while your dad's condition is explained to her. She must be suffering horribly to see one of her kids so ill!
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Well it's not my mom that has the authority even though she is still legally married to him. It's HIS mom, my grandmother, because that's who he had the ER call when he went there. The nursing home told me since they have no PoA they can only give us a little bit of information.
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Call your mom again and tell her how important this is to you. Use guilt if you have to.
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Unfortunately there is no PoA. He is still legally married to my mother. When my Aunt called to tell me what happened (I live in a different state than they do), we packed up the car and went to see him. The nursing home gave us very little information but as far as what happened to him in the hospital, they said his mother could go in person and request information but she is not able to do that (or won't do it.. I haven't figured it out yet). We didn't know what had happened to him until last week. He went to the ER in June, and was sent to the nursing home in July. Sadly, we didn't have much contact except for a few conversations once a month and my Aunt thought I had cut ties with him completely (which I hadn't) so she didn't bother calling until I had not heard from him in a while. A lawyer I spoke to said for a $1500 flat fee he could file guardianship for me and as long as nobody contested then it wouldn't be too bad. It is just really sad it has come to this. I literally have no clue what the hospital did to him for him to end up in this mental state that he is in now!! It's all very frustrating and I have no idea what to do :-(
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Very difficult situation. Can you ask the hospital and/or NH who they CAN release information to and then follow that up? My heart goes out to you.
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tashalg3480, you can only get information from the hospital or the nursing home only if your name is on what is called a HIPAA form. This form has to do with privately issues, and even though you are patient's daughter, your Dad probably forgot to add your name when he was in the ER.

As a patient in ER, his mind is in a whirl and it can get confusing. He can't add your name at this moment in time.

As for guardianship, from what I have read, it is quite expensive. Who is your Dad's Power of Attorney? Was it your mother? Or Dad never had a Power of Attorney made?

Here is an article I found here on Aging Care regarding guardianship.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-guardianship-of-elderly-parents-140693.htm
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I guess no one has POA? If your father did not sign a paper giving permission for the doctors to talk to family members than under HIPPA they don't have to talk to anyone. Which is a shame because seems like Dad was not able to tell them what he wanted. Guardianship can be very expensive and take a while.
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