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How does Brother think he can overrule his Dad's wife, for starters? Has he always been distrustful of you and Mom? Is he miffed being left out? Why on earth would Dad want to go home with your Brother instead of his wife (in his own home)?
I'd tell him to worry about getting a job and to mind his own business. I don't see what "legal rights" he has whatsoever. He sounds like a pompous jerk.
Dad can decide where to go.
But in general you might want to make sure you can reassure the rehab that you are prepared to take Dad home.
Since you work , your mother will need help taking care of Dad. Have a plan for some hired help coming in . Perhaps this is your brother’s concern . I don’t know if the rehab will send him home without a plan of hired caregivers to help .
I don’t know how it works in Canada.
I’m just guessing they would not send him home without enough help at home.
GOOD.
This where you will hear
1. What Dad's condition is
2. What his care needs are
CARE NEEDS should light the way forward. (NOT a who thinks best tussle between his children).
So wait for the meeting.
Once you have the facts, THEN discharge location can be discussed.
*Aim: Home. Will Dad be independant enough? Will his care needs be met? Who by? Mom? Mom + you? Mom + you + hired home help?
Sometimes A CARE TRIAL is suggested. Where the main caregiver to be takes care of Dad in the rehab for a 24 period. This will be her new reality. SHE has to be OK with this.
Has anyone asked your Mother what she thinks yet?
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GOOD.
This where you will hear
1. What Dad's condition is
2. What his care needs are
CARE NEEDS should light the way forward. (NOT a who thinks best tussle between his children).
So wait for the meeting.
Once you have the facts, THEN discharge location can be discussed.
*Aim: Home. Will Dad be independant enough? Will his care needs be met? Who by? Mom? Mom + you? Mom + you + hired home help?
Sometimes A CARE TRIAL is suggested. Where the main caregiver to be takes care of Dad in the rehab for a 24 period. This will be her new reality. SHE has to be OK with this.
Has anyone asked your Mother what she thinks yet?
GOOD.
This where you will hear
1. What Dad's condition is
2. What his care needs are
CARE NEEDS should light the way forward. (NOT a who thinks best tussle between his children).
So wait for the meeting.
Once you have the facts, THEN discharge location can be discussed.
*Aim: Home. Will Dad be independant enough? Will his care needs be met? Who by? Mom? Mom + you? Mom + you + hired home help?
This will be your parent's decision. Mom has to be OK with it.
Has anyone asked your Mother what she thinks yet?
I really don't understand children and their entitlement.
If your mother is competent and your father is competent then your brother will have nothing to say in this matter, almost certainly. But if your brother can manipulate your father to say he wishes to live with said brother, then brother may be created guardian through your court system.
What you need now if not the opinion of a bunch of worldwide forum members, but the help of an attorney in your own country who knows the rules and the actions to take and the documents to legally create to protect your dad, your mom and yourself.
As said, if dad is mentally all there, he is free to make the decisions about where he lives.
Please be advised, strokes do cause brain damage. Your dad could be listening to your brother and not being forthcoming with you and mom. The doctors should have already shown you scans of where the damage is and what can possibly be expected.
Good luck with your meeting.