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Think hard about why you are doing this. As rainmom says, do you truly have nowhere else to go? Are you hoping she'll be nicer to you than she was in the past (she won't). How are you going to support yoursrlf? Do you have outside caregivers lined up? Do you have POA for finances and health? Is she generally a cooperative and easy going person who trusts that you want the best for her?
Here is the key phrase: "Her and I never really got along."
Just don't do it!
If you are having difficulties about where to live and how to support yourself, address those needs.
Mom needs 24/7 care. Address her needs.
But trying to come up with a combined solution to both sets of needs is not going to work.
If it comes to a point that either you or Mom has no choice but for you to move in, make sure you put together an employment contract where Mom pays you for being her Caregiver. If she cannot afford to pay you, then sign her up for Medicaid and Medicaid can pay for her to go into a continuing care facility. Or Medicaid can send someone over to the home for a couple hours each week to give you a break.
I see by your profile that you live in California, check with the State about resources as California has some good programs.
If you've never gotten along before, you'll literally be at each other's throats if you move in and become dependent on her for shelter.
This is a bad idea. Rethink it over, now.
"Dolphin64
"I am caring for my mother, living at home and the primary ailment is alzheimer's / dementia."
My advice stands, whether Mom has dementia, cancer, mobility issues .,. or any other illness. Don't do it!
If for some reason it is imperative and there are no alternatives, your idea, caregiver75104, of arranging lots of respite is a good one. Better, though, not to get into that situation in the first place.
Do I think mother and daughter should never live together? Absolutely not. I've seen it work wonderfully. The key here is that OP and her mother have never gotten along.