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You may need to tell him therapeutic fibs in order to deflect his pursuit of more medical appointments. He not be able to work from reason and logic anymore, or even memory so trying to placate or convince him may only exhaust you. Dementia also robs people of their judgment, inhabitions and ability to have empathy for others'.
Is he being treated for depression? Parkinsons is a cruel disease... I wish you all the best as you help him through it.
This could be the solution because executive function goes with dementia, so he may not be able to go to a new doctor by himself.
It is hard to admit you have a terminal illness that will only progressively take your life.
I'm sorry for your dad and family, he is in a tough spot.
My brother died of another malady before he could sink into advanced dementia and the denial that would likely have come with it. Denial is almost a hallmark with ALL dementias.
You can do what you can do as POA for medical in telling doctors that your Dad needs to be reassured, to know that he is doing "fine", and etc. But there is not likely to be a sense of peace for your Dad regarding all this, and that needs simply to be accepted by the one who can still reason--that's you. Do the best you can to let him have what control he can have of these issues, and do the best you can to limit things; know that not everything can be fixed and you have entered the land of "making the best of it".
I sure wish you both luck.
Lewy Body is one of the most aggressive forms of dementia, with a life expectancy of 5-7 years, and the only outcome is death if something else doesn't take him first, so it does seem fruitless to keep doing from doctor to doctor doesn't it when there are no cures for either available yet?
Your dad is very young to have Lewy Body dementia, so perhaps just having a good neurologist that is familiar with the disease of dementia and Parkinson's, would be helpful to you both to help with any of the symptoms that your dad may be having from either.
I wish you and your dad the very best.
If going to dr appointments is the only outing he gets, that might be part of why he wants more doctors.
I had an aunt who had the same diagnosis and her daughter used CBD oil drops and believed it helped her. Her neurologist knew and was fine with it. I think that was the only dr she saw. She lived several years after being well enough to be concerned about doctor appointments or anything else.
Your father is younger. When a person is diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease at a younger age, the disease progresses faster. It’s sad.
One thing that I didn’t know about Parkinson’s disease was that people who have it can have low blood pressure.
I remember a time when I took mom to the ER because she wasn’t feeling well and her blood pressure was extremely low. They took her off of the blood pressure medication that she had been prescribed years earlier.
When is the last time you spoke with his neurologist? My mom took Sinemet for her Parkinson’s disease.
At one point. my mother was trying to walk out of the front door. She started seeing a “little girl” in dreams and then she said that this child would visit her when she was awake too. So, don’t be alarmed if your father tells you about hallucinations. Her neurologist prescribed Ativan and Seroquel. Adding those meds helped quite a bit.
Mom continued with Sinemet until she entered her ‘end of life’ hospice home. They took her off the Parkinson’s medication. She was given her Ativan and Seroquel, plus morphine. She died peacefully.
Best wishes to you and your dad.
Liked what ITRR said, if he can make the appt and get himself there, then he can go to whatever Dr he wishes. But your not taking him.
Does Dad have a Neurologist, if no he should have. If he does, next visit ask the doctor to sit down in front of Dad, look him in the eye and tell him, this is it. There is no more any doctor can do for him but give meds for the symptoms. There is no cure at this time for Parkinsons.
I actually cut down on my Moms doctors when she went into an AL. They didn't have a doctor associated with the AL so Mom kept her PCP. He had her coming every two months. All my Mom took was BP and thyroid meds. No need to go every 2 months. By law, to have prescriptions refilled it was every 6 months. She had a thyroid Dr she saw every 6 months once her #s were good. A stomach Dr who had seen her for a while concerning a thickening of top of her stomach he had been watching but was sure it was from Gerd she suffered from. Took him to a year. Same with her urologist, pretty much stopped him. She had bladder cancer at 80, caught early so cured but he kept wanting to do a yearly scope passed the 5 survival rate. With Dementia, if the cancer came back, we would not have put her thru the treatment or surgery if needed.
You just have to learn the word No. With Dementia setting in thats going to be hard so you need to learn how to redirect. Yes, time for those little white lies. Better for him and better for you. Conversation between a friend and her father while he was living in a NH:
Dad: J can you take my car in to get it worked on.
J: yes Dad
Next visit
Dad: Did you take my car in
J: Yes Dad I took it in
Next visit
Dad: Is My car done
J: Yes Dad, picked it up and took it back to the house.
Dad: Good.
By this time there was no car, there was no house. His wife of at least 65 yrs had passed not long before. But why try to explain that to him. Yes, he suffered from Dementia.
Don't run yourself ragged for someone you can no longer reason with. Just say, I'll look into that for you Dad. When he asks, did you call that Doctor, say yes but he is really booked up so be a while before I can get you in. I made an appt for my nephew back before Thanksgiving and he has to wait till March to see him for sleep apnea.
Your dad would likely benefit with a hospice evaluation if you feel he's approaching the end of his life. He, on the other hand, might vehemently disagree :( Many people feel that 'hospice' is a death sentence when in reality, it's just a way to STOP rushing around to different doctors hoping for a cure to terminal diseases. Your dad would get to live out his end days/weeks/months/years in comfort without going to hospitals and being poked and prodded unnecessarily.
My mother had advanced dementia and I took her to different doctors and to the ER innumerable times, all to no avail, really. When hospice finally accepted her, I was extremely relieved to be honest, and all the ER visits finally ended. She was given Ativan to calm down her Sundowning, and things did calm down significantly. She lived in Memory Care Assisted Living and passed in February.
I agree with the CBD oil or gummies, by the way, BUT they should contain THC in order to be effective. W/o THC, CBD is virtually useless and did absolutely nothing for my mother or for me when we tried the gummies. With THC, however, a person achieves an amazing level of relaxation and relief from PAIN.
I wish you the best of luck trying to manage your dad and all his issues.
We family thinks he got afflicted from serving in Veitnam back on 1968 since no such disease exists in my family. His POA agents are two local friends because I cannot be an agent due to my disability.
Cannot see him but only have limited email contact, so that is OK. However, if an emergency does come up, I am the next of kin's remote contact to be advised of my brother's condition. He cut off my other family years ago from God knows why, but he suffered from bipolar inherited from my mother.
Last year he wrote to me that he wanted to move back to independent living and get his driver license back. I did not write back nor say one word about his interest knowing he was in no condition to drive again. The car had already been sold.
Second, if he wants to fight, and it makes him happy, support him.
AND
Thard, look for lifewave.com
X39 patch, it can relieve symptoms.
Second, if he wants to fight, and it makes him happy, support him.
AND
Third, look for lifewave.com
X39 patch, it can relieve symptoms.
Do you happen to have a teaching hospital near by? If so, I would definitely talk to them. They are the drs still involved in research and familiar with new drugs that are out there as well as treatments to try. Certainly they would have seen other patients feeling the same as your dad and, if they agree with diagnosis, may be able to offer him a medication to help him deal with being anxious or whatever it is driving him to want medical help. Might just be some supplement or other med that won't sedate him out of this world, but make him feel more at ease so he can settle himself.
I do have a question. If he doesn't think he has the problems mentioned, what does he think is wrong to want a doctor to help him with?
If he still lives at AL, it doesn't sound like he is near the end of his life. AL usually means he can pretty much handle his own needs with very limited help.
Stay close to your dad...give him love and remain compassionate. Let him fight if he needs to...you may be surprised that he already has accepted it. He just may be trying to stay strong for his family.