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The usual answer to this question is ‘no’. If there's no documentation, it's usually an indicator that it wasn't intended as a binding agreement - unless there are formal witnesses or it's a special situation like an auction bid. But try for compensation, by all means. Few professional executors would consider paying up, a family member might. Just don’t spend too much money on lawyers.
That your sister stayed and became caregiver could get her compensation under that condition.
Mom just abusing her daughter might not fly.
Did mom take sisters money? Did sister see a professional and share what was going on? A doctor would chart what your sister said. Is the information you have solely from your sister?
Do you have anything in writing? I ask because mom could twist the narrative to make it appear that she was being taken advantage of by her daughter.
Sister can always submit a bill to mom and make mom prove it isn't true or she can submit it to her estate upon mom's death and hope she gets made whole that way.
There are never any guarantees about how something like this will shake out.
Is mom in AZ too?
”I am assisting my developmentally sister (69 yrs) who was our mother's involuntary family caregiver for more than 15 years. As time went on, it became apparent that our mother was abusing my sister. About six months ago, I helped my sister move out of our mother's home and to a town closer to me. I'm trying to help my sister - including trying to see if there is any way she can obtain back wages for all the caregiving she did for nothing. She is too intellectually vulnerable herself to have voluntarily agreed to sacrifice her own life and financial security to care for our mother. This was not a "gift" of family caregiving by my sister, but an appropriation of my sister's life, and time, and ability to earn outside money. Our mother abused my sister in many ways - including, but not limited to psychological and financial abuse - while my sister was living with her. There was never any agreement that my sister should be our mother's caregiver. Any suggestions as to how I could help my sister?”
Just curious and u don't have to answer but why did it take so long to get sister out of the house? At age 18 ur sister was considered emancipated by law. Your Mom had to get guardianship to take care of sisters affairs.
At this point you can get resources for your sister. Does she get SS? She should be able to as a disabled child. She gets it from her parents earnings. There's also SSI, Supplimental income. She can get Medicaid if she doesn't have it. Maybe a group home. There is also Adult daycare where she can get some socialization.
If the mother has deep pockets you might be able to get a lawyer interested. Anyone can sue. I do seem to recall a case where an illegal alien was forced to work in some kind of sweatshop, threatened, physically abused, and restrained from leaving; they were pursuing some kind of involuntary servitude claim that covered a number of years.
The issue will be getting around the assumption that “I let my disabled child live with me and she contributed to running the household to what extent she could.” So you’d be looking for things inconsistent with that. She was contributing a $2,000 disability check in an area where a room rents for $400. She was working ten hours a day producing crafts sold on Etsy. She was restrained from leaving the property or communicating with others. She was able to be productive and live reasonably independently before and/or after the fifteen years.
If there are no deep pockets, you might be better off setting her up for success from here. Follow through on pursuing any programs that she qualifies for. If there is any eventual inheritance give her a little help from yours and encourage other heirs to do the same.
Here’s a case involving a daughter-in-law. “Virginia family sent to prison after forcing Pakistan woman into ‘modern-day equivalent of slavery“ https://www.wric.com/news/virginia-news/virginia-family-sentenced-after-performing-decade-long-modern-day-equivalent-of-slavery-of-family-member
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