By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Check out BetterHelp.com and talk to an actual therapist.
Please seek help from someone you can trust and like mentioned 'care for yourself'.
A lot of people here had or have been left behind by their parent or both parents, Emotionally and physically, when they get older they come back into our lives and we end up here on the support group trying to figure it all out.
I hope you get things worked out. You can read up here anyway, you could probably find something that you relate to. No crime in that.
Take care.
Just wanted to offer my support to you and tell you that I am sorry that you have experienced these things in your life.
Wishing you all the best and sending a hug to you.
If you want just a lame opinion from a silly old 81 year old I am good for that. I have a bunch.
1. You are not ready to love someone until you are HAPPY and WHOLE with yourself and in your own being, and strong enough to not "need" anyone else. (File this under identifying a problem: You do not feel strong in yourself, by yourself, for yourself and of yourself ALONE).
2. You know all along as you go along in a bad relationship that it is going to end off the deep end.
You know it in your deepest, most protective inner being, and that inner being attempts all the time to tell you so, and you full well know when you are ignoring your inner voice. (File this one under identifying a problem: you aren't LISTENING to your own inner wisdom).
That's it for wisdom. I have had and survived a FEW bad bouts in 81 years as you can imagine.
As for what I recommend going forward, not a Forum (and this one is aging care, so wrong off the bat) of people marinating in their bad relationships, but a GOOD therapist. One that shakes you up. A cognitive therapist who will point you to new paths and away from the self harm of habitual ways of stirring a stew.
Good luck. It can be a long life. And it's a learning curve to be sure. And some of us have to learn the hard way. But all in all it's the trip of a lifetime.
It's very sad. So find yourself a good therapist that deals with past hurts, do the hard work it'll take to heal and get on with living and enjoying your life.
And yes this is a caregiver forum, so please start taking better "care" of yourself.
Also this is a caregiver forum, not dear Abby.