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It is not unusual for a facility to request a companion caregiver to be paid by the residents in the case of difficult behaviors. It was required of my mom. And yes, doubled her monthly care expenses. It was necessary as mom had become a danger to herself and others.
Check into care homes, lower resident population. My mom was eventually kicked out of memory card because of her behavior. A care home was suggested, 12 residents, worked much better for mom. Better caregiver/resident ratio, more individualized care. She still needed a companion at times.
Not sure if there's a way to make it easier, so just tell Dad his new place is finally ready and move him.
Its not your Dad his behaviours are normal, its the facility.
definitely move him. Be very upfront and clear with them about what you’d expect for your dad.
wandering is such a common thing with dementia…. I can’t believe they would expect one on one … they should definitely be able to handle that !!! If you decide to get him extra care for few hours/day for companionship that’ll be your idea not a MC saying he’s wandering !!!!
ridiculous !!!!
just tell your dad you found a much nicer place with better care !!!
he’ll adjust !!! And be happier than with a bunch of grumpy caregivers!!!
good luck 🍀
The first line of defense for behaviors like these are for the facilities to convince you to put your loved one on an antipsychotic. This will keep them tired and sleeping more so the facility does not need to understand how to care for them. It allows the facility to keep their low staff to resident ratio intact. AARP just successfully sued on this matter as are other states. It is a severe problem. I am glad you are moving him, they would either recommend drugging him or evict him. Anyone out there with a loved one who was put on an antipsychotic in a memory care or has been recommended to put them on an antipsychotic, please read this article.
https://health.usnews.com/health-news/best-nursing-homes/articles/antipsychotic-use-in-nursing-homes
Do the move for your peace of mind. it’ll be ok.
i ran into a similar situation years ago. It was a Brookdale facility. It was basically an AL with locked doors.