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The next thing that I want to suggest to you is that you seriously consider calling yourself for EMS and going to an ER to report your suicidal ideation. This WILL almost certain get you admitted for a 5150, a 72 hour admission and hold to their associated psychiatric department. Not ONLY will this help you be seen, heard, medicated and hooked up with care, but it will also get you access to Social Worker with your need for help with caregiving. You will be heard, and you MUST now be heard before an impulse harms you. While you are admitted to care your other parent will either enter hospital or respite care where they can be given access to care as well.
Heppner, know that you will hear from admins on this site, which is the norm for anyone reporting suicidal ideation. Please get help at once. Call 911 if you must to do so and tell them you are suicidal. I am so very sorry. You are badly in need of help and THERE IS HELP FOR YOU. Don't let a temporary situation have long term consequences.
You should no longer attempt this care which is harmful to you. Don't leave premises without EMS being aware and arranging care or without contact with Police or APS for followup for your parent still at home.
He lives in Australia: Magaret?
If anyone has ideas how to access help for him, do let him know. He's real low on energy with the caregiving. I know some access to help in the USA but am helpless overseas.
Thanks all.
Take care Heppner. Know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have been on this Forum for five years and I came here so desperate and anxious I almost froze when talked to; I swear I couldn't even HEAR I was so anxious. We have an expression in the states that is "I was a deer frozen in the headlights" and that is pretty much what it was.
It is the hardest thing, but the ONLY thing to know for NOW is that we have to take in deep breathes and we have to let them out slow, and we have to know that THIS is today; tomorrow won't be anything like it. It will be different. Maybe better, maybe not, but take it one day at a time and reach out EVERYWHERE for help. I mean EVERYWHERE. I am not a person of faith, not a believer, but I would run kicking and screaming into any church for help if I thought there was someone with ideas to guide and help me.
Secondly this is temporary, this can be fixed!
You need professional help. So I don't want to say to much, in fear of saying the wrong thing.
I will say I was once close to where you are today . And I promise, life can be good again! Life can be great, if you let it and those that want and wish to help, help you.
Please, when you can let us know how you are!!!
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One thing I noticed about elderly parents is that they don't realize their grown child is now older. I remember my folks (they were in their late 80's and 90's) thought I had the energy of someone in their 30's and 40's, when in fact I was also a senior citizen and my energy level had slowed down big time as I aged.
Time to think of a Plan B for caregiving for your parents. You can say "No" to caring for your parents. Practice saying "I can't possibly do that". Could they budget for a caregiver to come in to take your place during the day? Depending on your parents health, maybe it is time for Assisted Living or Skilled Nursing Facility as it sounds like they now need a village to help them.
Even before help arrives though, begin. Make sure you are eating healthy. Epson salt baths help with relaxation. Let your LOs know you need their help in this. Let them know they will need to be patient and understanding of your needs also in order for you to help them.
You must do this. Begin now.
I am sorry for your burden. I wish you all the best, and know that your are doing way better than you think, and you are important.