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I, too, don't sleep much and haven't quite figured this issue out. They both nap after lunch and I try to rest then, but there is always laundry, cooking, vacuuming, errands, etc to do when I have these hours alone. My husband will be retiring in a few years so he will be able to help more then, but for now I just do what I have to do to make everyone's lives as happy and healthy as possible.
I don't know if this was helpful but you are not alone in this.
Thank all you for your input.
How does that translate to give up your life to there lives, Honor is often misunderstood and used as a manipulation tool. I understand it to mean Respect your parents. That makes the balance easier. Your mom has her own life and you have yours. You can not be someone else's Peace, Joy or Salvation. You know this, so stop trying to be those for her. I believe the best way to Honor our parents is to be a well adjusted, God fearing, individual. If your mom thinks differently ask her to show you in God's word where He says, no life for you, you live hers and then she dies and you...you what?
Not trying to be offensive, I have personally dealt with the accusations of, "I thought you were suppose to be a good Christian. " my response is, " Even Jesus said "why callest thou me good, there is none good but one, God." I do not use that for me to do as I please, I use it to stop others from using my belief to use me and walk all over me, because they some how think that is what Christians do, put up with or are for. Not sure which, I try to exit as soon as possible, no sense in getting into a scriptural debate with that attitude.
I pray that you seek God's word for answers and that you find balance. We are told to "Love thy neighbor as thy self" if God did not want you to care for you, He would not have spoken these words. God Bless You and your Mom during this time of trial, remember "All things are possible to them that believe!"
I hear you. From what you wrote I know you are very dutiful, loving and caring daughter. I know its a lot easier said than done but based on what you are saying it is time to have some boundaries and possibly alternate care arrangements for your beloved mom. Please do not feel guilty for caring about yourself and having your own life. You are human. You have a right to honor your own needs and wants.
I grew up in a culture where children honor their parents by being at their beck and call and there is no pushback. I don't think this is healthy anymore. I had a lot of anger and resentment about my role in my family.
I hope you can find the right balance for yourself. Thinking of you.
What kind of help are you providing?
Are you living with her?
What is her financial situation? The edge of poverty, comfortable, well off?
Knowing this background will help us give specific suggestions. Your goal for balance is excellent.