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If you decide to get involved in this please, PLEASE read posts from this forum so you can get a good idea of what you'll be getting into. The issues you will face are endless and too many to list here. Taking care of this couple will become your life and will remain the #1 focus of your life until the day these folks die. There are hundreds of posts here that talk about stepping in to take care for an elderly person not realizing what it entailed. Spend some time on this forum and read about other people's experiences.
That you are considering this huge commitment tells me that you are a caring and concerned couple who want to do the right thing and help in any way you can. Don't enter into this lightly and don't make a decision until you've done extensive research on what's involved in being a caregiver. Many, many people who have to care for an aging parent feel trapped and stressed out all of the time. Why do you think this forum was created? And once you take on the role of caregiver it's very difficult to get out of it. Be prepared to become enmeshed in this family and any issues and problems they have. You will bear the brunt of everything. Also, since they are your landlords you will probably find yourself on call 24/7. As they come to depend upon you expect calls late at night and when you're not actively "on duty". You will become their world.
I was going to end on a positive note and say that caregiving is not without it's rewards but I'm trying to think of some rewards.....I guess caring for my dad brought us closer but it was also the most stress and anxiety I have ever experienced in my life. By the time it was all over I had lost 30 lbs. True, I had an emotional investment but being a caregiver to a friend or family member requires an emotional investment. I would never do it again, that's for sure.
After you've considered everything and if you decide to take this on this website will always be here to support you.
I too have questions as to why their adult children did not come directly to you and discuss this with you. It sounds like you have a good heart.
If I were brittany123, my biggest concern would be if/when you decide that you can no longer take care of this couple, will that jeopardize your living arrangement?
They need to be paying you in an upfront manner - the amount should be whatever a private pay RN is getting in your area. I would think your state board should have this sort of data for you easily. Parents issue you a W-2 and you fill out a W-9 & I-9 which goes to whomever is the DPOA in the family for them. If they don't have a set child as their DPOA, then they need to sort that out and get that done BEFORE you start work too. The MPOA well I would have that as a co-MPOA with you as an RN and then whomever is the DPOA sharing the MPOA.
Now I would also look into seeing if the man can get OK'd for hospice. Between you and what hospice could provide, this might be very manageable and not quite so overwhelmingly on you & your DH to do all this. Also there can be respite care time done down the road for you to have.
About the home they live in, what kind of shape is it in? You want to make sure that there are service providers that can deal with the house and they can bill the DPOA for whatever. You don't want to get stuck with the whole "you called the plumber and he is not who I would have called and it cost us more" bs from their kids. If the kids are not in town or not really involved in their parents life, they likely are totally unrealistic with what their parents home is like or needs. So often there is decades of delayed maintenance on the home of the elderly. You know what all is involved for nursing but you don't want to get all caught up in having to deal with replacing a roof, so make sure your agreement cover those items. Good luck!
But maybe not impossible… I can see the fundamental virtue of the landlord and wife continuing to live at home, with live-in help. Get all the devil out of the detail before you agree to anything, though; and especially remember that you can't be the only caregiver, so if this is a money-saving exercise it's not going to work.