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I wish you wisdom as you create boundaries and peace in your hearts as you recover from this painful incident.
I am quite concerned here.
You haven't made this clear enough: you tell us that you have received a court hearing notice for appointment of a guardian; I am assuming that his daughter is fighting for guardianship of her father.
It is crucial now that you and your husband seek out a lawyer at once. SOMEONE here is trying to get guardianship of your husband.
That may actually happen if you and your husband do not fight this in court.
You were already visited by APS. But what proof do you have of what they told you (that there is no case and no reason for a case).
I am a bit concerned for you.
What steps have you taken regarding this notice to appear in court for guardianship hearing?
When is this hearing?
Hoping to hear from you as regards all this. You could be in grave danger. Do know that, while you are well aware of the mental illness of this individual, the COURTS DO NOT. And she may have applied for guardianship at this time.
I would
A) Call APS today to tell them of this application for guardianship
B) Ask APS for any copies of their final report on her accusations and the outcome of examination of the case
C) Ask for their recommendations of an attorney, or what to do about this court case.
Ask if there is any way they can assist you now in getting an emergency temporary guardianship.
D) Consider getting an Elder Law Attorney. TODAY.
I hope you will update us. I am quite worried for you.
APS kept showing up at my door for all types of silly complaints. Finally, after she was placed, I was able to move on. You would think these people would be satisfied that I was no longer at home, and continued with the their guilt tripping behavior until I finally put phone blocks on their phone numbers so they would leave me alone. I didn't speak to them for seven years. Dad was angry because I wouldn't sign for a thirty thousand dollar equity loan that I would have been responsible for paying back. Lol. So that meant I would have been responsible for house taxes, loan, food, utility bills and other expenses while they lived in luxury and I would have been still living at home struggling with caretaking with my sister and working a low paying job..
Narcissistic people don't believe in taking responsibility or accountability for their actions.
If APS closed this chapter, why haven't APS gone after this sister for making false reports. Plus she lives in another state a thousand miles away and hasn't visited in eleven years.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have sent a cease and desist letter along with a restraining order to stop these interactions. When APS showed up, I would have shown them the docs and been done with it.
I shared this before on AC about my vindictive older sister. One time I was in the bathtub and got another one of these silly calls from APS saying she was my sister, and was locked in a room starving to death. I fell out laughing. My younger sister couldn't talk. I told the worker that my younger sister was downstairs with the aide having her breakfast! The aide spoke to the APS lady and gave her the agency number to call to verify she was from an agency and assigned to this case. It sounds like someone had been looking at too much tv. Why does that movie "Whatever Happened to Baby Jane," comes to mind.
You know she is crazy and the last thing you want to do with a litigious mentally ill person is engage with them. I have a sister like this. I know.
You do need an attorney for the hearing.
It is not over. Husband now has to go to court to show he is competent and to say he is being taken care of or the State will assign him a guardian. Then wife will have no say how things go. Now they need a lawyer who will show evidence of APS findings and that doctors say DH is being taken care of properly. This is now going to cost them money. If DH wins the case, he should sue his daughter.
Save any correspondence and paperwork from APS and the court clearing you because she may try again.
Your most effective weapon against anyone with that type of vendetta, other than legal options, is stone cold icy silence.