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I gather that as an empty-nester wife and mom who has been married to a great guy for 36 years and along with wanting some peace of mind would like to be a couple with their own space once again.
Her mother's medical problems that are described is basically poor vision which probably means that she could live somewhere else with either assisted living or some sort of assistance in living in her own townhouse, apartment, etc. Like I wrote on someone's wall, I believe we need to seek for means by which God's help comes. Like the story about the person who died and stood before God and blamed God for not rescuing him from that flood which destroyed his house and killed him. God's reply was, well I sent help by having people announce evacuate the area; then I sent a truck by; and then a boat came by when you were on the roof, and then not too close before all was lost I sent a helicopter by and you chose to not take any of my help.
I gather that as an empty-nester wife and mom who has been married to a great guy for 36 years and along with wanting some peace of mind would like to be a couple with their own space once again.
Her mother's medical problems that are described is basically poor vision which probably means that she could live somewhere else with either assisted living or some sort of assistance in living in her own townhouse, apartment, etc. Like I wrote on someone's wall, I believe we need to seek for means by which God's help comes. Like the story about the person who died and stood before God and blamed God for not rescuing him from that flood which destroyed his house and killed him. God's reply was, well I sent help by having people announce evacuate the area; then I sent a truck by; and then a boat came by when you were on the roof, and then not too close before all was lost I sent a helicopter by and you chose to not take any of my help.
Or can you talk it over with your mother?
How did it come about that your mother moved into your house in the first place? I guess I am suggesting you look to see if there are any in-between steps you and your mother can take.
I would encourage you to try to get extra help first. Maybe try to find someone who has taken care of the blind before and understands their unique needs. I am wondering if part of the problem is her frustration due to her limitations, etc., which in turn takes a toll on your emotions. Maybe having someone there to help care for her would act as a buffer for you both?
Gook luck!
Hap
My mom is hateful, we don't like each other much less love each other. I would never have her live with me . . . ever. I'd be in a physc hospital the first week. Do I feel guilty? No way. My mom thrived on keeping my emotional state in constant overdrive. I don't know if any of this applies to your situation. Your emotional health has to be protected. What good would you be to any of your family if you don't keep yourself well? Good luck on your decision.