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That worked for my Mom as it took her hours trying to remove that pillow.
Raising the center/foot of the bed a bit so the knees are bent might reduce him trying to get his legs out of the bed.
I think medication to reduce the agitation would also be a good step. No matter what you do to try to keep his legs in the bed without medication he may try anything to accomplish his goal of trying to get out of bed.
IF he does manage PLEASE do not try to get him up yourself or even have a family member help you. Call 911 ask for a "LIFT ASSIST" they will send paramedics that will in a matter of seconds accomplish what might take you half an hour to do. They will get him up and get him into bed. If there is no transport to the hospital typically the Lift Assist calls are not charged. And if there is no visible injury there is no need to transport.
(If he is on Hospice there is no transport unless authorized by Hospice anyway. But if he is on Hospice notify them of the Lift Assist call)
You sound against meds (me too!) BUT at this point of his life, I would do the meds.
https://www.rehab-products.com/products/30-degree-full-body-bed-support-system-w-four-attached-bolsters
I would also lower the bed as far down as you can so that even if he does get his legs off the bed he may not have the strength to stand, plus surround the bed with cushioned mats (yoga mats?).
But don't be afraid to try medication, allowing him to remain that anxious, frustrated or angry isn't really a kindness.
His caregiver doesn't like me raising his legs as it puts more pressure on his butt and causes bed sores. If I have to choose between bedsores and broken legs, I chose bedsores.
My mother suffered from advanced dementia and hospice was wonderful; they helped her stay calm & pain free while she was having a hard time with Sundowning in the afternoons and into the evening hours. I was the one who asked them to increase her Ativan in strength AND frequency b/c there was no point at all in having her suffer with agitation in the last months of her life.
Hospice can also provide him with a bolster pillow device for his hospital bed that will keep him cupped in place, making it harder to get up/out of the bed. An Alzheimer's anti-strip jumpsuit can be purchased here:
https://www.amazon.com/Ovidis-Anti-Strip-Jumpsuit-Men-Adaptive/dp/B07RDWJVGR/ref=sr_1_4?crid=APAHCSY6ZF2A&keywords=womens+alzheimers+clothing+-+alzheimer+anti-strip+jumpsuit+men&qid=1665445896&sprefix=womens+alzheimers+clothing+-+alzheimer+anti-strip+jumpsuit+men%2Caps%2C148&sr=8-4
Dress your husband in a Depends with a booster pad for extra absorbency for bedtime, then the anti-strip suit. He won't be able to take the Depends off and make a mess that way.
Best of luck to both of you.