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It did not go well at all! My mom also thought the caregiver was here to steal from her and she was extremely prejudice in her younger days. So, that the caregiver was black was part of the problem which is quite common from my understanding. Well, I started hearing my mom screaming at this poor woman to leave. I waited a few minutes to see if the caregiver would be able to settle her down. When I got upstairs mom was physically trying to throw the woman out of the house with the phone in her hand threatening to call 911.
That very day, and everyone should do this, I called the police department to make a note on this address that my mom has Alzheimer's. The police would still respond, but they will also know that there is someone living here with this wretched disease and understand better what they are walking into.
It did not go well at all! My mom also thought the caregiver was here to steal from her and she was extremely prejudice in her younger days. So, that the caregiver was black was part of the problem which is quite common from my understanding. Well, I started hearing my mom screaming at this poor woman to leave. I waited a few minutes to see if the caregiver would be able to settle her down. When I got upstairs mom was physically trying to throw the woman out of the house with the phone in her hand threatening to call 911.
That very day, and everyone should do this, I called the police department to make a note on this address that my mom has Alzheimer's. The police would still respond, but they will also know that there is someone living here with this wretched disease and understand better what they are walking into.
Blessings and good wishes,
LadeeC
You talk about two problems: needing assistance and getting her to accept help from someone else other than you.
For assistance, get in touch with your local Area Agency on Aging. Google that with your town or county and state. Does she get Medicaid? Find out what other programs might help.
Do you have a source for a HHA? Talk to the agency. She says she doesn't want "strangers" in her house. Arrange for the HHA not to feel like a stranger. Choose or have them send a real charmer with a sense of humor that will appeal to her. Will you be around when the HHA is there? You should be there for the first visit. Introduce her, and tell her about the proposed caregiver - her home, pets, children, interests. Tell her exactly how the time will be sent. If you can figure out her concerns about the "Stranger," try to address them. Lock up papers and valuable jewelry.
You may need to use some guilt on Mom. Tell her your job is in jeopardy and you need for her to have care. Tell her you can't sleep at night or concentrate because of worry about her being all alone. Tell her that if she won't let carers into the house, she will have to go into a NH where she will get 24/7 care.