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How is mom doing? Is she the primary caregiver? You need to make sure she's not getting worn down by all this.
You should ALL be watching Teepa Snow videos to learn how to handle him in a compassionate and appropriate way. It seems to me that "asking him what he's going to do" is more in line with what you'd ask a rebellious teenager than a person with dementia.
The smart thing to do is to stop repeating over and over again a behavior that doesn't work, and try a different approach. Talking to him another hundred times isn't going to change anything. Explaining until you are hoarse isn't going to change things.
Emphasize that he worked long and well and that now he is retired. He deserves it! Downplay that he can no longer be employed. It is just a matter of he collects SS now and it helps support the household. He's retired and you are proud of his working life.
Why can't he have his ID? Keys -- to the house and perhaps to his old suitcase, etc., but not to the car? Some cash?
I sat down with my husband and we talked about "identity theft" and the reason he shouldn't carry his credit cards. But he had his medical insurance cards, his ID, and various membership cards. And he always had some cash -- not enough to get in trouble, but enough to buy an ice-cream cone for us or pay for his haircut. Dementia steals a lot of dignity from a person. Don't make it worse than it has to be!
Learn all you can about dementia, and about Parkinson's combined with dementia. Learn how to deal with hallucinations (hint -- don't argue about them). Learn about depression and anxiety.
One excellent place to start is with Teepa Snow Videos.
If he wants a job, can someone in the family offer to help take him to and from volunteer opportunities? Delivering Meals on Wheels? Packing food at a food co-op? Helping with the animals at a local animal shelter?
Unpack and sort donated stuff at Salvation Army?
Call United Way helpline at 211 and ask for information on charities that need volunteers to work (not to make harassing calls as some of them do).
I would give him his ID though; if he ever does get lost, it will help authorities bring him home. I would also get a medic alert pendant, although I suspect he won't want to wear it.
Maybe there's something he can do at a local senior center.
It would help restore his sense of self esteem.
Granted, medication is a good option and it could help him feel more comfortable. I would figure a way to get those into him. It sounds like it's past the time that he is making good decisions for his health. Discussions with his doctor about treating him for delusions and other symptoms would be a good start.
It is often exhausting to provide 24/7 care for a patient with these conditions. That's why facilities often are a family's only option, especially those like Memory Care Units. You might check them out, so you will know what is available.
Now, let's throw into the mix Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, and diabetes. You Mom and brother now have much more on their plate in regard to their husband/Dad.
Maybe Dad would feel better if he could keep himself busy, somehow, depending on the stage of Alzheimer's. Are there chores around the house that he use to enjoy doing and maybe he can still do... and when he gets those chores done, praise him for a job well done.... that you all are glad he's there otherwise the work wouldn't get done, etc. Yes, I realize memory issues can throw a damper on chores, but it might be worth trying.
At 73 chances are your Dad had used a computer at one point or another. Is he able to still do so? Ask him questions that he can Google and look up the answers. Hey, Dad, how many times has the NY Yankees or Mets made it to the World Series? Or whatever he's interested in. Does he care about politics? Lot of interesting stuff happening for the 2016 run for the White House.
How about a hobby? Can he still read or listen to books on CD's? Would it help to take him to a park to feed the squirrels? (Do you have squirrels in sin city?)
Does Clark County have any type of community senior center where he can go for bingo or crafts?
Good luck to you!
Is there a senior center offering activities and programs? Maybe mom could join him. Maybe he'd get interested in something there. Can he play cards? They do lots of that at the centers. Fun! Could he do large piece jigsaw puzzles?
Does mom drive? Could they do outings? Lunch? Zoo? Movie?
Could he help with chores? Put photographs in albums? Take some simple classes? Bird carving? Does he have a dog? Take charge of the laundry?
He's bored. To tears. His problem is not unique. Look for creative interests he can be introduced to. Research on the Internet. I wish you good luck. And I sincerely hope your dad finds something to occupy his body and mind.