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What a horrible situation for your mother. Has your father always been kind of a jerk, or is this a personality change? Is she physically afraid of him? Does he threaten to do anything about her "infidelity?"
Your sister can be convinced if you set up a recorder or video camera the next time your mother comes home to face his accusations. Or you could bring them to the next party or church social in her town and let her see in person how humiliating his behavior is. If that doesn't work, let her disown you! Does she have all the money?
One idea is to try behavior modification. She can say, "You know that's not true. If you keep on saying that, I'm going to stop cooking for you!" She might say, "Shut up, or I will find a boyfriend!" Or just roll her eyes and say, "That old story. Can't you think of anything else to say?" And walk away and ignore him for a while.
She could make a joke out of it. "Yes, dear, I had sex with the high school quarterback. He really goes for eighty year old women." "No, dear, I was out cooking up crystal meth. You know I never liked sex, just drugs and rock and roll." "Exactly who do you think I was having sex with? Your girlfriend's brother?" "No, dear, that's you who has a girlfriend who comes over whenever I go out. I can smell her perfume."
I'm afraid his behavior may not change, and it's unlikely that he would take any medication to control his behavior. It will be very hard on your mother, especially if she is shy and proper, but she needs to learn that no one else believes him, and that she needs to learn to let it roll off her back.
That old line we tell our kids applies here. "He only keeps doing it because you get so upset." I wish I could come to their house. I'd straighten him right out for you!
He won't be persuaded to see a Dr although he clearly has in the past. if the tumor continues to grow he will probably have a seizure and that is the time to call 911 and get him to an ER. Do it fast while he is semi conscious so he can't object.
Set up a safe place in the house where your mother can barracade herself and call 911 if she feels threatened. If she does not use a cell phone get her an old one and a charger and tell her to keep it charged and on her person at all times because even a cell without service allows you to call 911.
As far as the verbal abuse is concerned, it is clearly upsetting for Mom but there is little she can do about it except walk away and realize this is not the same man as she married and the talk is about his unbalanced mind not what he believes she is doing.
As well an the benign brain tumor Dad's lung cancer may have metastasized to his brain as well. Whether he is a smart man or not does not affect his current behavior. It is frustrating to him because he gets confused when he thinks of scientific things he can not longer remember and that is very frightening because on some level he realizes a little of what is happening to his mind.
This is very frightening for all concerned but consult an eldercare lawyer and get all the paperwork in order.It seems like forever but it may all be over faster than you expect.
Wheresdad: Your sister has her head in the sand. Let her disown you!
Your Mom is still living alone with Dad, and her physical safety could be in jeopardy at any given time. She is already being emotionally abused by him. Whatever it takes, I would get him to a doctor Neuro and or Psych for another evaluation. If at any time your Dad acts up while you are in their home and poses a threat to your Mother or you, I would immediately call 911 and get him out of there. Once in the ER, they will do the psych/neuro eval and probably admit him. Then it is up to you to see that he does not return home and gets placed in a facility. If your sister doesn't like it then let her take him to her home, but try not to let your Mom agree for him to go home - let her keep saying she fears for her safety.