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Carol
Guns are only evil if misused, and the elderly are more vulnerable than others.
Her ability to aim is irrelevant - most gun uses are extreme close range - within 10 feet, so her aim is not going to be a factor - even the blind keep and carry guns for protection!
Again, so long as she is mentally and physically competent, it is her right, and I say, go mom!
If she has not got the mental capacity (and paranoia is not a disqualifier) then you will need to take steps to have the firearms removed. If you do so, be sure to give her another means of self defense! I recommend the wasp spray that shoots a stream up to 20 feet. This is an excellent non lethal self defense tool for any age.
Just make sure you announce yourself when you enter her house. It would be terrible if she mistook you for an intruder. In fact, if you suspect she is showing ANY signs of dementia at all, I would even CALL first before entering!
Call her doctor and see if you can go with her to an appointment. Have him evaluate her or send her to be evaluated. Call the DHS people if you think you need immediate help.
If she thinks she needs protection, maybe a Medical Alert sytem would be a good idea.
When my Dad moved in with me, I sent his gun collection to my brother in law and nephews. They hunt and have locked gun safes.
I, on the other hand, have a curious ADHD son, and a parade of strange caregivers that come to the house to take care of Dad. Access to firearms is not in their job description.
Dad is very resentful, but its my house. My rules.
Your momma's guns have to go away. If she pointed a gun at anyone, she could be arrested. If she pointed a gun at a cop, the officer could shoot her.
I agree with Ms Bursack that involving local law enforcement is in order. Maybe a visit from a nice friendly neighborhood cop will help her make sensible decisions. At the very least, the police need a record that there might be a potential issue here.
Take the gun away or take away the ammo, and let it go at that.
You say she's paranoid and has been all of her life, but you don't say if this is a mental illness issue.
Has her home been burglarized? Has she been a victim of a crime in the past? Has someone threatened her? Is there crime in her neighborhood?
Until her competency status is reviewed by a physician and psychologist, I would disable the guns.
If there are grandchildren coming into her home, that's another concern.
Does she have licenses for both guns?
Are there grandchildren that might find them? You might make that the safety issue for her and suggest she lock them away in a cabinet. Then maybe you can hide or take the key.
garza
See what you can do to alleviate her depression in a natural way, paying particular attention to comments that can be construed as suicidal. If she does utter some, use persuasion to find out if she has a plan of some sort. That being the case, contact law enforcement.
In the meantime, and now that the weather has warmed up a bit, step up family activities. Keep her busy; see if you can get a couple of hearty laughs out of her. The she has a right to own a gun; and she also has a right to pursue happiness. Make sure she does.
All you have to do is tell her that you need to borrow the guns to be cleaned. The guns should be cleaned and oiled every 3-6 months anyway, to keep them in good working order. Once you have the weapon/s take them to a gun shop and ask them to load them with blanks. She wont know the difference.
Good Luck!!
If the link doesn't show up, Google Patricia Konie to find out about this incident.