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Who currently is POA and paying her bills? It's important to know who is acting for her now, because it quite certainly is not her.
I would discuss your concerns with social workers where you mother is currently, and with the administration there.
You are correct that if the courts appoint a Fiduciary you will not have a say in anything. That person will decide best how, when and where to make the money last best for the person. On the other hand, guardianship is a difficult job, and one not easily got out of, so in a sense it makes a good deal of common sense to stay out of it if you aren't up to a hard job.
Can you clarify what you mean by, "My plan is to sell her property (she signed over rights to me to do that)..."
Does this mean you are her financial PoA? What exactly did she sign? She didn't transfer the property to you, did she?
If you are her FPoA and you've done what the document requires in order for your authority to be active, then you can sell her property without her agreement, as long as it's going to pay for her care. Have you done the calculations to see how long it will last at that facility? You wrote in your profile that she's currently in AL, which is less expensive than MC. If she requires LTC, this is what Medicaid will pay for is she is medically assessed as needing it. So her FPoA needs to be very careful how they manager her money.
You don't need to listen to anything she says or asks you to do, especially since you know she has mental illness and dementia. Literally ignore it, she is having delusions so don't spend any energy acknowledging them. She can insist on a "major life change" at 80 all she wants: it ain't gonna happen unless you enable it. Please don't.
Teepa Snow has some excellent videos on YouTube on how to interact with people with dementia for more peaceful and productive conversations. I learned a lot from her.