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The reality of the situation is that his needs (and yours!) will only increase. If he is now sliding into cognitive decline (dementia) you will never be able to retrain any of his behaviors. It is going to impact your physical and mental health, your finances and your marriage.
First, do you have durable Power of Attorney for your father so that you can legally act as his representative? If not, please work to get this in place. Without this, and him being resistant to care, meds, etc. it will become very difficult to work to improve his (and your) situation. If he refuses to assign a PoA, the only other option will be guardianship. This needs to be pursued through the courts and requires time and money if pursued by family. If not pursued by family then the county will seek it. The way it works in the U.S. is that *someone* has to have legal authority in order to act on another's behalf when they no longer can.
Next, he needs to be tested for cognitive decline/memory loss. You need a diagnosis so you understand what you are dealing with. Your father is not getting more "stubborn"... he is most likely sliding into cognitive decline and there are certain behaviors that go along with it. Resistance is one of them.
In the end, you will need to make a decision. You must choose your marriage and health first, so that you can be wholly functional to help your father. If I were in your situation I'd start looking into LTC or MC facilities. Research how he (not you) can pay for it (Medicaid in all states pays for MC or LTC). He must qualify for MC or LTC and then apply for Medicaid. Considering transitioning him to a care facility does not mean you don't love him. But, your first obligation is to your husband and self. You are on the verge of Burnout. Please read the many posts under the topic Burnout on this forum. We don't want that to be you. May you have the inner strength and wisdom to move forward and peace in your heart through the process.
Seems to me Dad needs more care than you can give him. He needs to be in a Long term Care facility. If he has any money, use it for his care, when its gone put him on Medicaid.
My cousin suffered from MS. Stress did her in. Your health is important.